I think it’s more about situations that have insufficient information. The initial example has him being called “rapey” for a light tap on a friends shoulder for the first time. It’s different if he were to slug them hard and it’s different if the recipient already expressed they aren’t interested. But if the first time someone taps their friend on their shoulder is compared to actual rape in any way then we clearly need to reevaluate something.
A bit about my history that colors this—I grew up being taught in a way that I thought going up to someone, especially a woman, introducing myself, and extending my hand for a handshake was vaguely rapey. People with different experiences than mine may find the article a lot less important than I do. In my personal pendulum swing I still avoid punch buggy like things towards people who have said no to them but am a lot more open to trying it for the first time with a new person who seems like the type who’d enjoy them.
I think it’s more about situations that have insufficient information. The initial example has him being called “rapey” for a light tap on a friends shoulder for the first time. It’s different if he were to slug them hard and it’s different if the recipient already expressed they aren’t interested. But if the first time someone taps their friend on their shoulder is compared to actual rape in any way then we clearly need to reevaluate something.
A bit about my history that colors this—I grew up being taught in a way that I thought going up to someone, especially a woman, introducing myself, and extending my hand for a handshake was vaguely rapey. People with different experiences than mine may find the article a lot less important than I do. In my personal pendulum swing I still avoid punch buggy like things towards people who have said no to them but am a lot more open to trying it for the first time with a new person who seems like the type who’d enjoy them.