My read it is that he mostly criticizes people who object to the game on ideological grounds. Typically, you wouldn’t hit hard, it’s a playful thing.
It’s about making a big thing out of a small thing, when it would be equally easy (easier, ultimately) to ignore it and play along.
Now, surely we can imagine an abusive scenario. What to do? I think it requires social finesse. Either you’re being hit too hard and you think you have a good case to be made for that. You just say: you hit me too hard, stop doing it. That might work. But maybe the person thinks you’re objecting on unreasonable ideological ground, or maybe he’s just a jerk. Then don’t mount your high horses, just punch them back.
If I could give advice to my younger self, one of the most important one would be: throw a few punches. I was never bullied, but people did give me a lot of flack because I was a good students (and with hindsight, there are other things I could have done to ease the situation, but I digress). I should have punched one or two students who gave me a hard time. Even if I ultimately got beaten. The point is to send a signal that messing with you is costly, it has consequences. It’s not a matter of debate.
My read it is that he mostly criticizes people who object to the game on ideological grounds. Typically, you wouldn’t hit hard, it’s a playful thing.
It’s about making a big thing out of a small thing, when it would be equally easy (easier, ultimately) to ignore it and play along.
Now, surely we can imagine an abusive scenario. What to do? I think it requires social finesse. Either you’re being hit too hard and you think you have a good case to be made for that. You just say: you hit me too hard, stop doing it. That might work. But maybe the person thinks you’re objecting on unreasonable ideological ground, or maybe he’s just a jerk. Then don’t mount your high horses, just punch them back.
If I could give advice to my younger self, one of the most important one would be: throw a few punches. I was never bullied, but people did give me a lot of flack because I was a good students (and with hindsight, there are other things I could have done to ease the situation, but I digress). I should have punched one or two students who gave me a hard time. Even if I ultimately got beaten. The point is to send a signal that messing with you is costly, it has consequences. It’s not a matter of debate.