Do other people like clothes when they buy them and dislike them after putting in the wardrobe? I mean, I personally think it is true for myself because my relatives like to give me clothes as easy gifts and I always feel like they remind me that I am a child, which is why I learned to smile and say thank you regardless whether I like something. Lately, when I have to buy something for myself, I just wander and use the Force. How do you unlearn such a habit (it seems wasteful and ungrateful not to accept a gift, but also wasteful and stupid not to learn to choose)?
The path I see is to develop more specific preferences and articulate why you prefer certain clothing over other clothing. Tell your relatives what kind of clothing you like.
You can even say: “I have make a decision to move to a new style …” If you don’t want to make them feel bad for past gifts.
Clothes I pick often depend on my mood and the social context I will have in the day. If the emotional state in which you buy radically differs from the state in which you choose clothes from your wardrobe that can lead to a disconnect.
Have you analysed why you prefer certain clothing over other clothing?
Thank you, I’ll try.
I prefer warm to pretty in winter and khaki/colourful (depending on whether I am with my kid or not) to neat. I prefer pants to skirts. Generally, I like only a narrow subset of how I can look, and get annoyed when people tell me to be more flexible. My thinking goes like ‘can’t they see I have already defined myself and have no wish to follow aging conventions?’ (I’m 29.) It’s a bug and not a feature, but I find other people’s clothing so… hopeless, I guess, so muted, that I can’t remember the last timeI envied someone.
Do other people like clothes when they buy them and dislike them after putting in the wardrobe? I mean, I personally think it is true for myself because my relatives like to give me clothes as easy gifts and I always feel like they remind me that I am a child, which is why I learned to smile and say thank you regardless whether I like something. Lately, when I have to buy something for myself, I just wander and use the Force. How do you unlearn such a habit (it seems wasteful and ungrateful not to accept a gift, but also wasteful and stupid not to learn to choose)?
The path I see is to develop more specific preferences and articulate why you prefer certain clothing over other clothing. Tell your relatives what kind of clothing you like.
You can even say: “I have make a decision to move to a new style …” If you don’t want to make them feel bad for past gifts.
Clothes I pick often depend on my mood and the social context I will have in the day. If the emotional state in which you buy radically differs from the state in which you choose clothes from your wardrobe that can lead to a disconnect.
Have you analysed why you prefer certain clothing over other clothing?
Thank you, I’ll try. I prefer warm to pretty in winter and khaki/colourful (depending on whether I am with my kid or not) to neat. I prefer pants to skirts. Generally, I like only a narrow subset of how I can look, and get annoyed when people tell me to be more flexible. My thinking goes like ‘can’t they see I have already defined myself and have no wish to follow aging conventions?’ (I’m 29.) It’s a bug and not a feature, but I find other people’s clothing so… hopeless, I guess, so muted, that I can’t remember the last timeI envied someone.
If that’s true it’s likely that it you could be more specific then pants>skirts and khaki/colorful.
On the other hand those seems pretty straightforward rules for your relatives. Don’t gift her skirts and make sure it’s either khaki or colorful.