I hate how convincing so many different people are. I wish I just had some fairly static, reasoned perspective based on object-level facts and not persuasion strings.
Note that convincing is a 2-place word. I don’t think I can transfer this ability, but I haven’t really tried, so here’s a shot:
The target is: “reading as dialogue.” Have a world-model. As you read someone else, be simultaneously constructing / inferring “their world-model” and holding “your world-model”, noting where you agree and disagree.
If you focus too much on “how would I respond to each line”, you lose the ability to listen and figure out what they’re actually pointing at. If you focus too little on “how would I respond to this”, you lose the ability to notice disagreements, holes, and notes of discord.
The first homework exercise I’d try to printing out something (probably with double-spacing), and writing your thoughts each sentence. “uh huh”, “wait what?”, “yes and”, “no but”, etc.; at the beginning you’re probably going to be alternating between the two moves before you can do them simultaneously.
[Historically, I think I got this both from ‘reading a lot’, including a lot of old books, and also ‘arguing on the internet’ in forum environments that only sort of exist today, which was a helpful feedback loop for the relevant subskills, and of course whatever background factors made me do those activities.]
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I hate how convincing so many different people are. I wish I just had some fairly static, reasoned perspective based on object-level facts and not persuasion strings.
Note that convincing is a 2-place word. I don’t think I can transfer this ability, but I haven’t really tried, so here’s a shot:
The target is: “reading as dialogue.” Have a world-model. As you read someone else, be simultaneously constructing / inferring “their world-model” and holding “your world-model”, noting where you agree and disagree.
If you focus too much on “how would I respond to each line”, you lose the ability to listen and figure out what they’re actually pointing at. If you focus too little on “how would I respond to this”, you lose the ability to notice disagreements, holes, and notes of discord.
The first homework exercise I’d try to printing out something (probably with double-spacing), and writing your thoughts each sentence. “uh huh”, “wait what?”, “yes and”, “no but”, etc.; at the beginning you’re probably going to be alternating between the two moves before you can do them simultaneously.
[Historically, I think I got this both from ‘reading a lot’, including a lot of old books, and also ‘arguing on the internet’ in forum environments that only sort of exist today, which was a helpful feedback loop for the relevant subskills, and of course whatever background factors made me do those activities.]
Why can’t I delete comments sometimes? >:(
Users can’t delete their own comments if the comment has been replied to, to avoid disrupting other people’s content. (you can edit it to be blank though, or mark it as retracted)