Note that convincing is a 2-place word. I don’t think I can transfer this ability, but I haven’t really tried, so here’s a shot:
The target is: “reading as dialogue.” Have a world-model. As you read someone else, be simultaneously constructing / inferring “their world-model” and holding “your world-model”, noting where you agree and disagree.
If you focus too much on “how would I respond to each line”, you lose the ability to listen and figure out what they’re actually pointing at. If you focus too little on “how would I respond to this”, you lose the ability to notice disagreements, holes, and notes of discord.
The first homework exercise I’d try to printing out something (probably with double-spacing), and writing your thoughts each sentence. “uh huh”, “wait what?”, “yes and”, “no but”, etc.; at the beginning you’re probably going to be alternating between the two moves before you can do them simultaneously.
[Historically, I think I got this both from ‘reading a lot’, including a lot of old books, and also ‘arguing on the internet’ in forum environments that only sort of exist today, which was a helpful feedback loop for the relevant subskills, and of course whatever background factors made me do those activities.]
Note that convincing is a 2-place word. I don’t think I can transfer this ability, but I haven’t really tried, so here’s a shot:
The target is: “reading as dialogue.” Have a world-model. As you read someone else, be simultaneously constructing / inferring “their world-model” and holding “your world-model”, noting where you agree and disagree.
If you focus too much on “how would I respond to each line”, you lose the ability to listen and figure out what they’re actually pointing at. If you focus too little on “how would I respond to this”, you lose the ability to notice disagreements, holes, and notes of discord.
The first homework exercise I’d try to printing out something (probably with double-spacing), and writing your thoughts each sentence. “uh huh”, “wait what?”, “yes and”, “no but”, etc.; at the beginning you’re probably going to be alternating between the two moves before you can do them simultaneously.
[Historically, I think I got this both from ‘reading a lot’, including a lot of old books, and also ‘arguing on the internet’ in forum environments that only sort of exist today, which was a helpful feedback loop for the relevant subskills, and of course whatever background factors made me do those activities.]