Your comment implied to me that having any gap in your employment history for any reason will lead to insurmountable difficulties, potentially ending you up in a sweatshop.
That’s interesting because I am in the habit of intentionally using phrasings that show my uncertainty, and that post includes phrasings like “probably”, “some people”, “you might” and “I don’t know” for a reason. So, the question is why did you ignore those words?
I had an employment gap personally & had absolutely no difficulty finding a job.
Okay. Since it would be foolish of them to make a hasty generalization and assume they won’t have a problem based on you not having a problem, especially after I explained about the problems I have seen, I say this does nothing to counter my point which was “Consider this very carefully.” If you were arguing with somebody who had said “No matter what you do if there’s an employment gap you won’t be hired.” then your statement would be a counterargument. It appears that you’re arguing with a strawman.
What qualifies as a “significant” gap? Might one client’s “significant” be another client’s “insignificant”?
Of course. If I remember right, some begin discriminating at the one month point.
I also think you have a problem understanding language.
Does the statement:
“Coconut milk is delicious.” imply that it never goes rotten? Does “Cars are a means of transportation.” include cars in junkyards that are beyond repair?
People frequently say statements like these because it would be time consuming and awkward to phrase everything the way you suggest. Also, if anybody ever phrases things without the word “all”, while not intending a hasty generalization (probably just about everyone) it’s probably better not to expect what they’re saying to be “all”. This isn’t a problem with understanding language, I’m simply not assuming something that wasn’t specified and don’t expect others to, either.
I think you’re having an emotional reaction to my posts. This is understandable, but I think it might be influencing the way you interpreted me.
I’m not really interested in arguing any further. My point was that your comment seemed overblown to me. You’re not going to argue me out of my feeling & you can’t exactly prove it wrong either. I agree that the OP should consider the risks, so on that important point we agree. Maybe our communication styles are just so different that it is tough to grok one another in a satisfying way.
Looking over your original comment, I do see that you used those words. Although “probably” is less uncertain than “certainly”, it seems to me that neither of us is really qualified to, based on our anecdotal evidence, produce a true estimate of the likelihood of the OP having a problem finding employment due to a gap in his employment history. To me, “probably” implies that something is, “more likely than not”—I try to use “possibly” instead if I’m not sure because it implies that it could really go either way.
I don’t feel very emotional about this discussion, but I also feel a bit like just disengaging. I said I’m not interested in arguing anymore, but I’m still going on, so who knows. How are you feeling?
You’re not going to argue me out of my feeling & you can’t exactly prove it wrong either. … I agree that the OP should consider the risks, so on that important point we agree.
Thank you for realizing this.
Maybe our communication styles are just so different that it is tough to grok one another in a satisfying way.
I think the problem might just be that I think it’s likely the OP will be discriminated against with an employment gap and you don’t, or that IMO the consequences are more likely to be severe (being jobless for a long time or ending up in some horrible workplace).
neither of us is really qualified to, based on our anecdotal evidence, produce a true estimate of the likelihood of the OP having a problem finding employment due to a gap in his employment history
I agree with this and I think I see where you’re coming from—you just don’t feel that these problems are as likely as I think they are. Maybe all your experiences support it. That’s understandable. It can be hard to determine the exact probability of things. I didn’t see any research on this, so unless there is some that I failed to locate, there’s not a good way for either of us to support our side.
I said I’m not interested in arguing anymore, but I’m still going on, so who knows. How are you feeling?
It seems like you want a conclusion and perhaps to end on a friendly note rather than an argumentative one. I also feel like not arguing further, and I’d prefer to end friendly than unfriendly. My reasoning for not wanting to argue is that you don’t seem to be very familiar with logical fallacies. It always takes a lot more energy for me to disagree with a person if they’re not. Often, I won’t bother to argue at all after I see enough logical fallacies. I made an exception this time because not defending my point might have meant that someone was influenced to do something risky without really considering the risk.
I feel pretty satisfied that I have supported my “be careful” point adequately, so I am content to stop arguing.
I am familiar with logical fallacies & I feel a little bit insulted by the fact that you think I’m not, but I can live with it.
I think you might be right about my motivation (wanting closure & to be on friendly terms). You seem to have a good sense about people. I feel better now, because I feel more understood.
My main motivation for responding to your comment was to expose the OP to a bit of discussion coming from both sides (well actually, I think we are both really near the middle—one side would be, “no matter what, an employment gap will always cause insurmountable difficulties” & the other would be “an employment gap never causes any kind of problems whatsoever”, but those are ridiculous positions anyway).
That’s interesting because I am in the habit of intentionally using phrasings that show my uncertainty, and that post includes phrasings like “probably”, “some people”, “you might” and “I don’t know” for a reason. So, the question is why did you ignore those words?
Okay. Since it would be foolish of them to make a hasty generalization and assume they won’t have a problem based on you not having a problem, especially after I explained about the problems I have seen, I say this does nothing to counter my point which was “Consider this very carefully.” If you were arguing with somebody who had said “No matter what you do if there’s an employment gap you won’t be hired.” then your statement would be a counterargument. It appears that you’re arguing with a strawman.
Of course. If I remember right, some begin discriminating at the one month point.
Does the statement:
“Coconut milk is delicious.” imply that it never goes rotten? Does “Cars are a means of transportation.” include cars in junkyards that are beyond repair?
People frequently say statements like these because it would be time consuming and awkward to phrase everything the way you suggest. Also, if anybody ever phrases things without the word “all”, while not intending a hasty generalization (probably just about everyone) it’s probably better not to expect what they’re saying to be “all”. This isn’t a problem with understanding language, I’m simply not assuming something that wasn’t specified and don’t expect others to, either.
I think you’re having an emotional reaction to my posts. This is understandable, but I think it might be influencing the way you interpreted me.
I’m not really interested in arguing any further. My point was that your comment seemed overblown to me. You’re not going to argue me out of my feeling & you can’t exactly prove it wrong either. I agree that the OP should consider the risks, so on that important point we agree. Maybe our communication styles are just so different that it is tough to grok one another in a satisfying way.
Looking over your original comment, I do see that you used those words. Although “probably” is less uncertain than “certainly”, it seems to me that neither of us is really qualified to, based on our anecdotal evidence, produce a true estimate of the likelihood of the OP having a problem finding employment due to a gap in his employment history. To me, “probably” implies that something is, “more likely than not”—I try to use “possibly” instead if I’m not sure because it implies that it could really go either way.
I don’t feel very emotional about this discussion, but I also feel a bit like just disengaging. I said I’m not interested in arguing anymore, but I’m still going on, so who knows. How are you feeling?
Thank you for realizing this.
I think the problem might just be that I think it’s likely the OP will be discriminated against with an employment gap and you don’t, or that IMO the consequences are more likely to be severe (being jobless for a long time or ending up in some horrible workplace).
I agree with this and I think I see where you’re coming from—you just don’t feel that these problems are as likely as I think they are. Maybe all your experiences support it. That’s understandable. It can be hard to determine the exact probability of things. I didn’t see any research on this, so unless there is some that I failed to locate, there’s not a good way for either of us to support our side.
It seems like you want a conclusion and perhaps to end on a friendly note rather than an argumentative one. I also feel like not arguing further, and I’d prefer to end friendly than unfriendly. My reasoning for not wanting to argue is that you don’t seem to be very familiar with logical fallacies. It always takes a lot more energy for me to disagree with a person if they’re not. Often, I won’t bother to argue at all after I see enough logical fallacies. I made an exception this time because not defending my point might have meant that someone was influenced to do something risky without really considering the risk.
I feel pretty satisfied that I have supported my “be careful” point adequately, so I am content to stop arguing.
I am familiar with logical fallacies & I feel a little bit insulted by the fact that you think I’m not, but I can live with it.
I think you might be right about my motivation (wanting closure & to be on friendly terms). You seem to have a good sense about people. I feel better now, because I feel more understood.
My main motivation for responding to your comment was to expose the OP to a bit of discussion coming from both sides (well actually, I think we are both really near the middle—one side would be, “no matter what, an employment gap will always cause insurmountable difficulties” & the other would be “an employment gap never causes any kind of problems whatsoever”, but those are ridiculous positions anyway).
Anyhoo, thanks for your insight & patience.
Cheers!