I don’t really understand the reply. Are you saying it’s rarely high status even within my social circles? Or are you saying that my social circles are unusual? To the former, all I can say is that we apparently have very different experiences. To the latter… well, duh, that’s WHY I specified that it was specific to THOSE groups...
Are you saying it’s rarely high status even within my social circles?
I am saying that is more likely that you are inflating the phrase “high status” to include things that are somewhat low status but overall socially rewarding than that your subculture is stretched quite that far in that (unsustainable) direction.
My general experience has been that “I don’t know, but I’ll find out”, said to someone currently equal or lower status than me, clearly but mildly correlates with most of the low status behavior you mentioned. I’m not as sure how it affects people higher status than me, since I don’t have as many of those relationships / data points.
So I continue my assertion that, yes, it’s high status, not merely socially rewarding. I still suspect this is a weird and unusual set of experiences, and probably has to do with how I position “I don’t know” relative to others.
I don’t really understand the reply. Are you saying it’s rarely high status even within my social circles? Or are you saying that my social circles are unusual? To the former, all I can say is that we apparently have very different experiences. To the latter… well, duh, that’s WHY I specified that it was specific to THOSE groups...
I am saying that is more likely that you are inflating the phrase “high status” to include things that are somewhat low status but overall socially rewarding than that your subculture is stretched quite that far in that (unsustainable) direction.
How would “I don’t know” being high status be unsustainable?
For that matter, what distinction are you drawing between high status and socially rewarding?
Yes, “high status” being the inflated does seem to be the crux of the matter.
Socially rewarding behaviors that, ceritus paribus are low status.
Saying “please” or “thankyou”.
Listening to what someone is saying. Even more if you deign to comprehend and accept their point.
Saluting.
Doing what someone asks.
Using careful expression to ensure you don’t offend people.
My general experience has been that “I don’t know, but I’ll find out”, said to someone currently equal or lower status than me, clearly but mildly correlates with most of the low status behavior you mentioned. I’m not as sure how it affects people higher status than me, since I don’t have as many of those relationships / data points.
So I continue my assertion that, yes, it’s high status, not merely socially rewarding. I still suspect this is a weird and unusual set of experiences, and probably has to do with how I position “I don’t know” relative to others.