Think of the norms I’m proposing as cheap social interventions for mental health. You can say 2-4 are misplacements of responsibility. They’re symptoms of an overactive anxiety. But I think there’s a limit to how much we should care about where responsibility lies when considering how to behave in order to bring happiness. I think taking the anxieties into account (by being upfront with willingness to reject, and helping others reject you if they wish) can improve our relationships and communities regardless.
Think of the norms I’m proposing as cheap social interventions for mental health. You can say 2-4 are misplacements of responsibility. They’re symptoms of an overactive anxiety. But I think there’s a limit to how much we should care about where responsibility lies when considering how to behave in order to bring happiness. I think taking the anxieties into account (by being upfront with willingness to reject, and helping others reject you if they wish) can improve our relationships and communities regardless.