You get to live and feel and experience being the unwanted guest because you are the one having the insecurity, the one being insecure. If you were the unwanted guest, would you leave faster when validated or when invalidated?
Keeping on invalidating feelings are going to lead to a bad time. Just the same as if I ignored and invalidated you as a person too.
All the feelings are part of you like guests in the house. Welcome them all.
This is an odd analogy. Not all houseguests are welcome, nor should be!
I have good news for you.
You get to live and feel and experience being the unwanted guest because you are the one having the insecurity, the one being insecure. If you were the unwanted guest, would you leave faster when validated or when invalidated?
Keeping on invalidating feelings are going to lead to a bad time. Just the same as if I ignored and invalidated you as a person too.
Uh, second one, definitely. Obviously. (Haven’t you ever been an unwanted guest? Like, in real life?)
This isn’t really how feelings work.
You say that but people do keep mentioning they don’t like your commenting on lw. It doesn’t seem to make you leave.
Yes this is how feelings work. But don’t take my word for it. Check for yourself?
I don’t really know what this means. Could you elaborate? What does it mean to “check for myself”?