The trouble is, if people don’t experience the feeling of defeat, they don’t tend to undergo proper relinquishment, and will revert back to the indefensible stronger position in time.
This seems to be a lack of capacity to ‘update’ in general.
Even without an argument taking place, I’ve often seen this happen: I explain something to someone, he/she seems to agree and think it makes sense, and then they turn around and do or say something that contradicts their supposedly new belief, reverting back to their old position without even realizing it.
That’s very possible, and we’d have to look at it in a case by case basis to see if they got it but somehow kept that new knowledge/belief compartmentalized, or just pretended to get it when they actually didn’t.
But depending how you define ‘clicking’, it probably includes ‘updating’, so we might be describing something similar using different terminology.
This seems to be a lack of capacity to ‘update’ in general.
Even without an argument taking place, I’ve often seen this happen: I explain something to someone, he/she seems to agree and think it makes sense, and then they turn around and do or say something that contradicts their supposedly new belief, reverting back to their old position without even realizing it.
Isn’t that just evidence that they never really got it in the first place? It didn’t look like they ‘clicked’ before, did it?
That’s very possible, and we’d have to look at it in a case by case basis to see if they got it but somehow kept that new knowledge/belief compartmentalized, or just pretended to get it when they actually didn’t.
But depending how you define ‘clicking’, it probably includes ‘updating’, so we might be describing something similar using different terminology.