Interesting, I’m homeschooled (unschooled specifically) and that probably benefited my agency (though I could still be much more agentic). I guess parenting styles matter a lot more then surface level “going to school”
You’re super brave for sharing this, it’s hard to stand up and say “Yes I’m the stereotypical example of the problem mentioned here”, stay optimistic though; people starting lower have risen higher.
My homeschooling was basically, my parents gave me textbooks and ignored me while I pretended to work through them and actually spent most of my time daydreaming because I hated the whole experience. Honestly the only reason I’m as smart as I am is that I’m naturally curious and they didn’t actively discourage that—they just didn’t encourage it particularly well either. I honestly have schooled myself more than anything—though nowhere near as well as I would like, as I lack motivation on my own and am at the mercy of my constantly changing interests.
My parents’ parenting style is essentially “children are extensions of their parents who must obey and never develop their own personality or opinions.” The fact that I’ve managed to do both of the latter things is again a testament to how hard it is to prevent, but I’m still regularly finding ways in which I have just passively assumed my parents were right about certain things without any evidence, and they in fact were wrong.
As for bravery: thank you, but I don’t have much filter, and I’m a bit self-centered. Talking about myself is usually easier than not doing so. :P
Interesting, I’m homeschooled (unschooled specifically) and that probably benefited my agency (though I could still be much more agentic). I guess parenting styles matter a lot more then surface level “going to school”
You’re super brave for sharing this, it’s hard to stand up and say “Yes I’m the stereotypical example of the problem mentioned here”, stay optimistic though; people starting lower have risen higher.
My homeschooling was basically, my parents gave me textbooks and ignored me while I pretended to work through them and actually spent most of my time daydreaming because I hated the whole experience. Honestly the only reason I’m as smart as I am is that I’m naturally curious and they didn’t actively discourage that—they just didn’t encourage it particularly well either. I honestly have schooled myself more than anything—though nowhere near as well as I would like, as I lack motivation on my own and am at the mercy of my constantly changing interests.
My parents’ parenting style is essentially “children are extensions of their parents who must obey and never develop their own personality or opinions.” The fact that I’ve managed to do both of the latter things is again a testament to how hard it is to prevent, but I’m still regularly finding ways in which I have just passively assumed my parents were right about certain things without any evidence, and they in fact were wrong.
As for bravery: thank you, but I don’t have much filter, and I’m a bit self-centered. Talking about myself is usually easier than not doing so. :P