It would be really good to have a definition that had some shreds of objectivity to it.
The problem with this is that there is no objectivity. It’s not just about the behavior, or the “perpetrator”, or the “victim”. It’s the intersection of all of them and it’s basically dependent on how the “victim” interprets certain aspects of the “perpetrator’s” behavior- which is hugely biased by the personal characteristics of the “perpetrator”. A hot guy walking up to a girl in a bar is flattering. An ugly guy doing the exact same thing is creepy. A confident guy using a line is an segue to flirtation. A nervous guy using the exact same line is creepy.
This makes it really difficult to teach people to not be creepy by telling them specific actions to take or not take. Much more useful would be a guide with certain tests that people could put out there to gauge the “temperature” of social situations before committing to a course of action.
The problem with this is that there is no objectivity. It’s not just about the behavior, or the “perpetrator”, or the “victim”. It’s the intersection of all of them and it’s basically dependent on how the “victim” interprets certain aspects of the “perpetrator’s” behavior- which is hugely biased by the personal characteristics of the “perpetrator”. A hot guy walking up to a girl in a bar is flattering. An ugly guy doing the exact same thing is creepy. A confident guy using a line is an segue to flirtation. A nervous guy using the exact same line is creepy.
This makes it really difficult to teach people to not be creepy by telling them specific actions to take or not take. Much more useful would be a guide with certain tests that people could put out there to gauge the “temperature” of social situations before committing to a course of action.