Exactly. I was talking about the ‘rule’ “If a significant fraction of a group find your behaviour creepy, the responsibility to change the behaviour is yours.”
That’s a rule for an individual’s behaviour. And as written it’s a stupid rule that invites abuse—the stereotypical ‘nice guy’ can just say “well, no-one else complained” and still carry on behaving that way and thinking of himself as behaving properly.
Exactly. I was talking about the ‘rule’ “If a significant fraction of a group find your behaviour creepy, the responsibility to change the behaviour is yours.”
That’s a rule for an individual’s behaviour. And as written it’s a stupid rule that invites abuse—the stereotypical ‘nice guy’ can just say “well, no-one else complained” and still carry on behaving that way and thinking of himself as behaving properly.