It seems to me that it is this argument that infantilizes the targets of harassment and other unwelcome behaviour we’re lumping under “creepy”.
The problem is that it is not specific behavior that is forbidden. It is more like “making advances while male to someone to who finds you unattractive at the time, or later on” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBVuAGFcGKY) or, in another context “driving while black”.
Actually that’s a very useful and powerful analogy because it also references ingroup vs. outgroup asymmetry, and how that is a driver for power imbalance and perceptions.
At least one (myself). And many others like them.
The problem is that it is not specific behavior that is forbidden. It is more like “making advances while male to someone to who finds you unattractive at the time, or later on” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBVuAGFcGKY) or, in another context “driving while black”.
Actually that’s a very useful and powerful analogy because it also references ingroup vs. outgroup asymmetry, and how that is a driver for power imbalance and perceptions.