Thank you! That was what I was looking for in a title, I just couldn’t seem to find the right words. I’ll be editing the title in a minute. I also got pretty intimidated—within 10 minutes I’d lost about a fifth of my total karma and no one would tell me why. That seems to me another weakness—we are too quick to vote and seemingly not good enough at debating some topics and explaining WHY something deserves to be voted up/down.
I was very unhappy to see this downvoted as much as it was, although I thought it may have been because of something in the sequences I hadn’t gotten to yet. But I especially try to avoid downvoting new people who are obviously making an effort, as you were. So I’m glad this corrected itself.
On rewarding effort, rather than results and quality:
Actually, they were being treated like children but they had been their whole lives and didn’t know the difference.
Treating like an adult: You’re fucking up. Here’s how to fix it. Now fix it.
Treating like a child: You’re trying really hard! Good job! It’s not the result that matters, it’s just that you try!
(That’s actually a functional way to deal with children up to a point. In most cases they can’t do a real job. But when they get to the point they can, when they’re ready to learn to be adults with adult responsibilities, “it’s a good try” should never cut it.)
Thank you! That was what I was looking for in a title, I just couldn’t seem to find the right words. I’ll be editing the title in a minute. I also got pretty intimidated—within 10 minutes I’d lost about a fifth of my total karma and no one would tell me why. That seems to me another weakness—we are too quick to vote and seemingly not good enough at debating some topics and explaining WHY something deserves to be voted up/down.
I was very unhappy to see this downvoted as much as it was, although I thought it may have been because of something in the sequences I hadn’t gotten to yet. But I especially try to avoid downvoting new people who are obviously making an effort, as you were. So I’m glad this corrected itself.
On rewarding effort, rather than results and quality:
John Ringo, The Last Centurion, p.369