The lesson here is to start and conduct relationships with a consciousness of impermanence so there are no nasty surprises
To me, the whole purpose of a relationship (as opposed to a casual fling) is to make investments that will pay off down the road. This requires a sense of indefinite permanence. Yes, your direct relationship will end eventually (death) but your investments, such as the family you create, can continue forever—in that sense the relationship you have built need never end.
If your lesson is truly a good one, why is it that all the successful marriages I’m aware of are based on absolute and indefinite commitment? Or is my sample non-representative? How many successful marriages do you know that are conducted with a consciousness of impermanence?
Now I am confused. “Till death does apart” is BOTH an absolute and indefinite commitment and a consciousness of impermanence. For example the novel cliche “and they lived forever ever after” lacks the later part. Forever vs. death.
To me, the whole purpose of a relationship (as opposed to a casual fling) is to make investments that will pay off down the road. This requires a sense of indefinite permanence. Yes, your direct relationship will end eventually (death) but your investments, such as the family you create, can continue forever—in that sense the relationship you have built need never end.
If your lesson is truly a good one, why is it that all the successful marriages I’m aware of are based on absolute and indefinite commitment? Or is my sample non-representative? How many successful marriages do you know that are conducted with a consciousness of impermanence?
Now I am confused. “Till death does apart” is BOTH an absolute and indefinite commitment and a consciousness of impermanence. For example the novel cliche “and they lived forever ever after” lacks the later part. Forever vs. death.