Radica Honesty takes what I called the “gordian” approach to the knot, by directly trying to communicate what’s up for you. I think this is often a pretty good approach, because (out of an abundance of caution) we tend to over-estimate how bad it will be to say things out loud (eg, admitting that we have any other priorities in life than our partner, or admitting that we don’t like something our partner is doing, etc—often the partner already knows!).
However, I also find that tools like delaying can be very useful (which I guess is against the spirit of Radical Honesty). It might be awkward or rude or otherwise problematic to bring up something in the moment, but this doesn’t have to mean that it won’t be a conversation at all.
Radica Honesty takes what I called the “gordian” approach to the knot, by directly trying to communicate what’s up for you. I think this is often a pretty good approach, because (out of an abundance of caution) we tend to over-estimate how bad it will be to say things out loud (eg, admitting that we have any other priorities in life than our partner, or admitting that we don’t like something our partner is doing, etc—often the partner already knows!).
However, I also find that tools like delaying can be very useful (which I guess is against the spirit of Radical Honesty). It might be awkward or rude or otherwise problematic to bring up something in the moment, but this doesn’t have to mean that it won’t be a conversation at all.