If you’re not bothered by injections and have appropriate technique then all you have to do is shoot saline in front of your mother.
Operant conditioning:
Apply the gold standard of animal training. Reward positive behaviours, ignore negative ones.
The obvious problem with using OC on your relatives is that you typically have care for them. Micromanaging every interaction kills any hope of honesty or intimacy. They’re just problems to be managed, not people you can actually share anything with.
This situation is a test. It is not the last time you will be confronted with this kind of thing. If you favour science, then what do you think your logical course of action should be if prior courses have failed?
If you’re not bothered by injections and have appropriate technique then all you have to do is shoot saline in front of your mother.
I might do just that if I ever feel an urge to be confined in a psychiatry clinic.
The obvious problem with using OC on your relatives is that you typically have care for them.
Agreed, that’s something I’d use on my college peers, not relatives.
This situation is a test. It is not the last time you will be confronted with this kind of thing. If you favor science, then what do you think your logical course of action should be if prior courses have failed?
I have mentioned what action seems obvious at the end of my question. Persuasion will most likely fail. Plausible solutions are middle grounds and / or moving out.
Learn how to deal with people unlike yourself without having to convert them to your beliefs or run away from them. The sooner you figure this out, the less avoidable suffering you’ll have to endure.
Plausible solutions are middle grounds and / or moving out.
Here’s a radical idea: if you don’t like being at home, don’t be at home.
Go out and get a job. That will get you some money, actual real world experience, and external perspectives that you currently lack.
With all due respect, “learn how” is why I am here, it is in my very question.
I do have a job, and hence some experience outside my family bubble. However, at work I deal with scientists who are a very different kind of people as you might imagine.
My strategy of having peace is described in my question. As to how to make peace, there have been a few ways suggested, e.g. setting boundaries. I can’t see any others really. Do what you both agree on together, do the rest separately in your own way.
You have your fall back position of retreat here, and very little to lose by experimenting with ways to break out of the behavioural loop you’re stuck in. People alter their behaviour in response to your own. Therefore you can make iterative changes and observe the effects.
Slight of hand:
If you’re not bothered by injections and have appropriate technique then all you have to do is shoot saline in front of your mother.
Operant conditioning:
Apply the gold standard of animal training. Reward positive behaviours, ignore negative ones.
The obvious problem with using OC on your relatives is that you typically have care for them. Micromanaging every interaction kills any hope of honesty or intimacy. They’re just problems to be managed, not people you can actually share anything with.
This situation is a test. It is not the last time you will be confronted with this kind of thing. If you favour science, then what do you think your logical course of action should be if prior courses have failed?
I might do just that if I ever feel an urge to be confined in a psychiatry clinic.
Agreed, that’s something I’d use on my college peers, not relatives.
I have mentioned what action seems obvious at the end of my question. Persuasion will most likely fail. Plausible solutions are middle grounds and / or moving out.
Learn how to deal with people unlike yourself without having to convert them to your beliefs or run away from them. The sooner you figure this out, the less avoidable suffering you’ll have to endure.
Here’s a radical idea: if you don’t like being at home, don’t be at home.
Go out and get a job. That will get you some money, actual real world experience, and external perspectives that you currently lack.
With all due respect, “learn how” is why I am here, it is in my very question.
I do have a job, and hence some experience outside my family bubble. However, at work I deal with scientists who are a very different kind of people as you might imagine.
Okay. Give me your strategy for making peace with your mother.
My strategy of having peace is described in my question. As to how to make peace, there have been a few ways suggested, e.g. setting boundaries. I can’t see any others really. Do what you both agree on together, do the rest separately in your own way.
You have your fall back position of retreat here, and very little to lose by experimenting with ways to break out of the behavioural loop you’re stuck in. People alter their behaviour in response to your own. Therefore you can make iterative changes and observe the effects.
That’s all I’m trying to get you to consider.
Hm, valid point I suppose. I just have to be careful to not end up with a bigger issue than I’ve started with.