person A wanted X level of neatness and was uncomfortable at Y level,
and person B wanted Y level of neatness and was uncomfortable at X level.
I’ve had a similar experience of somebody wanting a (small) amount of mess. The explanation was that if a house didn’t look ‘lived it’ it wasn’t really home, and therefore not a conformable place to live.
I actually am such a person, if anyone wants to ask relevant questions. I grew up in a very messy house—my father didn’t care, and my mother was disabled enough to have trouble keeping on top of things—and I find living-places that are too clean to be anxiety-inducing.
I expect my best friend’s son (now 6 months old) may grow up this way. They live with her mother-in-law and I have never in my life seen so much stuff in one house. The overall impression is of abundance rather than clutter, but there’s still a lot of clutter. It’s the kind of house where a student like me goes empty handed and leaves with a bag full of food and old clothes to try on and extra Tupperwares.
I’ve had a similar experience of somebody wanting a (small) amount of mess. The explanation was that if a house didn’t look ‘lived it’ it wasn’t really home, and therefore not a conformable place to live.
I actually am such a person, if anyone wants to ask relevant questions. I grew up in a very messy house—my father didn’t care, and my mother was disabled enough to have trouble keeping on top of things—and I find living-places that are too clean to be anxiety-inducing.
I expect my best friend’s son (now 6 months old) may grow up this way. They live with her mother-in-law and I have never in my life seen so much stuff in one house. The overall impression is of abundance rather than clutter, but there’s still a lot of clutter. It’s the kind of house where a student like me goes empty handed and leaves with a bag full of food and old clothes to try on and extra Tupperwares.