Note that none of the above is about whose fault it is that Choni overslept his interview—it’s his responsibility to make sure he wakes up in time, and you’re not to blame for his failure to do so.
however, see (bolding mine):
You see him sleeping and leave him alone. When he wakes up at 4:30pm, he has missed his 2pm job interview and is annoyed. What went wrong? Here are three plausible stories:
There was a modeling error: You falsely believed that Choni wanted to nap all afternoon—you didn’t know he had an important interview, or thought he had rescheduled it—so you decided to let him sleep, acting reasonably based on your bad model.
these seem to contradict? “None of the above is about whose fault” vs “What went wrong? […] You […]”.
the default is “leave me alone” (plus, I guess, anything you’ve explicitly agreed to, like a rotation of dishwashing duties)
I agree
, and any more intimate involvement with their lives is something you opt into
I possibly disagree. Qualifications:
they have to ask you, not you opt in
there are some things they could ask you to do that are impossible for you to do (and yet common misconceived as possible)
for example, it is impossible to “make your roommate happy (without their help)” or to “do their taxes accurately (without their help)”
I imagine that subscribing to your model might also get tricky and drama-inducing if one roommate says to another “I want you to help me anytime you think you could help me”
I agree with
however, see (bolding mine):
these seem to contradict? “None of the above is about whose fault” vs “What went wrong? […] You […]”.
I agree
I possibly disagree. Qualifications:
they have to ask you, not you opt in
there are some things they could ask you to do that are impossible for you to do (and yet common misconceived as possible)
for example, it is impossible to “make your roommate happy (without their help)” or to “do their taxes accurately (without their help)”
I imagine that subscribing to your model might also get tricky and drama-inducing if one roommate says to another “I want you to help me anytime you think you could help me”