The standard quick-and-dirty method of predicting others seems to be “model them as slightly modified versions of you”
It certainly doesn’t feel that way to me, but I might have inherited some autistic characteristics since there are a couple of autistic people in my extended family. Now that I’ve worked with people more, it’s more like I have several basic models of people like “rational”, “emotional”, “aggressive”, “submissive”, “assertive”, “polite”, “stupid”, “smart”, and then modify those first impressions according to additional information.
I definitely try not to model other people based on my own preferences since they’re pretty unusual, and I hate it when other people try to model me based on their own preferences especially if they’re emotional and extroverted. I find that kind of empathy very limited, and these days I think I can model a wider variety of people than many natural extroverts can, in the limited types of situations where I need to.
Thanks! Your personality archetypes/stereotypes sound like a quick-and-dirty modeling system that I can actually use, but one that I shouldn’t explain to the people who know me by my true name.
That probably explains why I hadn’t heard about it already: if it were less offensive-sounding, then someone would have told me about it. Instead, we get the really-nice-sounding but not very practical suggestions about putting yourself in other peoples’ shoes, which is better for basic* morality than it is for prediction.
*By “basic”, I mean “stuff all currently used ethical systems would agree on”, like ‘don’t hit someone in order to acquire their toys.’
It certainly doesn’t feel that way to me, but I might have inherited some autistic characteristics since there are a couple of autistic people in my extended family. Now that I’ve worked with people more, it’s more like I have several basic models of people like “rational”, “emotional”, “aggressive”, “submissive”, “assertive”, “polite”, “stupid”, “smart”, and then modify those first impressions according to additional information.
I definitely try not to model other people based on my own preferences since they’re pretty unusual, and I hate it when other people try to model me based on their own preferences especially if they’re emotional and extroverted. I find that kind of empathy very limited, and these days I think I can model a wider variety of people than many natural extroverts can, in the limited types of situations where I need to.
Thanks! Your personality archetypes/stereotypes sound like a quick-and-dirty modeling system that I can actually use, but one that I shouldn’t explain to the people who know me by my true name.
That probably explains why I hadn’t heard about it already: if it were less offensive-sounding, then someone would have told me about it. Instead, we get the really-nice-sounding but not very practical suggestions about putting yourself in other peoples’ shoes, which is better for basic* morality than it is for prediction.
*By “basic”, I mean “stuff all currently used ethical systems would agree on”, like ‘don’t hit someone in order to acquire their toys.’