I feel slightly nervous I am overtly spending internet ink on this but here I go.
I was unsure how obvilously wrong it was ment to appear. To me saying that “someone seems cold” is not problematic. “dissociated” and “disembodied” read to me to be part of natural feeling (expression), somebody could mean technical things with them and not have a attitude loaded into them. Those parts did not constitute drippingness for me. For autistic there was no technical meaning that could make sense.
I was not triggered but it did cross my mind that not everyone thinks that is unbased take to me (and kind of categorising this knowledge as common only in the small subcommunity). Having those fly without anybody batting an eyelid would be normalising the hateful conduct. I was unsure whether the eyelid was batted already so I batted a separate eyelid. And tried to include indicators that it is a mild reaction (a kind of messaging I have reason to believe I frequently screw up).
I do reflect that if I was in the context where this could be assumed common knowledge I would not probably be making this move (bat the eyelid). So I am wondering whether it connects to the object level phenomena (of groups polarising) where people harden their signals so that outsiders with more noise and less decoding ability do not get unintended messages.
Lots of ink, but lots to think about. I’m thankful for this post fwiw.
The “no technical meaning” could maybe be an indicator of sarcasm. But you’re right that there was no way for you to know I wasn’t just misapplying the term in the same way as the OP.
I don’t think this relates to group polarization per se but I take your point.
I didn’t mean “triggered” to mean extremely so, someone can be mildly triggered and again, I apologize for (in my perception, based on your comment) doing that. I think you did the right thing.
With no resonable way of knowing without context I am using “technical” here in a very idiosyncratic way. If two speech acts that have very different connotations and then strip them of the connotations if they are the same then the technical meaning is the same.
If someone is being hateful I often proceed to “fix the message from them” mentally in my receiving end. So while I starkly reject parts of it, rejecting everything of it punishes also the non-hateful parts. Thus I have the cognitive task of “what they should have said”. If there is no innocent message left after removing the hate, it is pure hate. This is a kind of “could a reasonable opiner opine this?” standard. It is easy to read “disembodied” in a ablist way but it might just be a clumsy way to refer to low charisma (is is “repairable”). So after phrasing incompetence is exhausted an assumption of malice starts.
To have the statistical mean human deduce “That guy gets passionate in an unnatural way → that guy is autistiic” has low plausibility. Backtracing where this logic would be natural, worrying about upholding a mask about a behaviour that has lots of details and has high fluency from the mimic target making it highly likely to be a statistical outlier that a masking strategy does not cover well (this is not meant to be a mask review). Confusion, “stiffness” or “odd feeling” would represent what happens in situations like these. Zero to 100% autistic label is irrealistic. The average hater is not that informed.
I feel slightly nervous I am overtly spending internet ink on this but here I go.
I was unsure how obvilously wrong it was ment to appear. To me saying that “someone seems cold” is not problematic. “dissociated” and “disembodied” read to me to be part of natural feeling (expression), somebody could mean technical things with them and not have a attitude loaded into them. Those parts did not constitute drippingness for me. For autistic there was no technical meaning that could make sense.
I was not triggered but it did cross my mind that not everyone thinks that is unbased take to me (and kind of categorising this knowledge as common only in the small subcommunity). Having those fly without anybody batting an eyelid would be normalising the hateful conduct. I was unsure whether the eyelid was batted already so I batted a separate eyelid. And tried to include indicators that it is a mild reaction (a kind of messaging I have reason to believe I frequently screw up).
I do reflect that if I was in the context where this could be assumed common knowledge I would not probably be making this move (bat the eyelid). So I am wondering whether it connects to the object level phenomena (of groups polarising) where people harden their signals so that outsiders with more noise and less decoding ability do not get unintended messages.
Lots of ink, but lots to think about. I’m thankful for this post fwiw.
The “no technical meaning” could maybe be an indicator of sarcasm. But you’re right that there was no way for you to know I wasn’t just misapplying the term in the same way as the OP.
I don’t think this relates to group polarization per se but I take your point.
I didn’t mean “triggered” to mean extremely so, someone can be mildly triggered and again, I apologize for (in my perception, based on your comment) doing that. I think you did the right thing.
With no resonable way of knowing without context I am using “technical” here in a very idiosyncratic way. If two speech acts that have very different connotations and then strip them of the connotations if they are the same then the technical meaning is the same.
If someone is being hateful I often proceed to “fix the message from them” mentally in my receiving end. So while I starkly reject parts of it, rejecting everything of it punishes also the non-hateful parts. Thus I have the cognitive task of “what they should have said”. If there is no innocent message left after removing the hate, it is pure hate. This is a kind of “could a reasonable opiner opine this?” standard. It is easy to read “disembodied” in a ablist way but it might just be a clumsy way to refer to low charisma (is is “repairable”). So after phrasing incompetence is exhausted an assumption of malice starts.
To have the statistical mean human deduce “That guy gets passionate in an unnatural way → that guy is autistiic” has low plausibility. Backtracing where this logic would be natural, worrying about upholding a mask about a behaviour that has lots of details and has high fluency from the mimic target making it highly likely to be a statistical outlier that a masking strategy does not cover well (this is not meant to be a mask review). Confusion, “stiffness” or “odd feeling” would represent what happens in situations like these. Zero to 100% autistic label is irrealistic. The average hater is not that informed.