You’re suggesting the girls think they are unattractive because their unclear non-verbal signaling fails to yield positive feedback from men? This is plausible though Eliezer also mentioned nerdy men who are notoriously bad in this regard.
No, I’m suggesting that “Actually, what’s happening” should be “Sometimes what is happening”. It isn’t only the nerdy guys who aren’t playing the game correctly. Sometimes nerdy girls don’t signal correctly either, especially those with low self esteem. And that’s ok, just something that can be improved on.
You’re suggesting the girls think they are unattractive because their unclear non-verbal signaling fails to yield positive feedback from men? This is plausible though Eliezer also mentioned nerdy men who are notoriously bad in this regard.
No, I’m suggesting that “Actually, what’s happening” should be “Sometimes what is happening”. It isn’t only the nerdy guys who aren’t playing the game correctly. Sometimes nerdy girls don’t signal correctly either, especially those with low self esteem. And that’s ok, just something that can be improved on.
Obviously this is an issue where nearly everything everyone says is a generality and accuracy could be improved by hedging.