(instead of doing the sheep dance where you freeze motionless and wait for them to approach)
Actually, what’s happening is they’re giving the nerdy male 3-4 obvious body language signals telling them to approach. The nerdy male just misses them.
Sometimes. But since Eliezer mentioned girls who think they are unattractive some the signals are probably not nearly so clear.
You’re suggesting the girls think they are unattractive because their unclear non-verbal signaling fails to yield positive feedback from men? This is plausible though Eliezer also mentioned nerdy men who are notoriously bad in this regard.
No, I’m suggesting that “Actually, what’s happening” should be “Sometimes what is happening”. It isn’t only the nerdy guys who aren’t playing the game correctly. Sometimes nerdy girls don’t signal correctly either, especially those with low self esteem. And that’s ok, just something that can be improved on.
Sometimes. But since Eliezer mentioned girls who think they are unattractive some the signals are probably not nearly so clear.
You’re suggesting the girls think they are unattractive because their unclear non-verbal signaling fails to yield positive feedback from men? This is plausible though Eliezer also mentioned nerdy men who are notoriously bad in this regard.
No, I’m suggesting that “Actually, what’s happening” should be “Sometimes what is happening”. It isn’t only the nerdy guys who aren’t playing the game correctly. Sometimes nerdy girls don’t signal correctly either, especially those with low self esteem. And that’s ok, just something that can be improved on.
Obviously this is an issue where nearly everything everyone says is a generality and accuracy could be improved by hedging.