Why is it OK for me to hire an employee and give them money in exchange for doing what I want, when I’m not willing to take money from them in exchange for doing what they want? Why is it OK for me to work full time while my husband takes care of our household, when I’m not willing to take care of the household while my husband works full time? Why is it OK to have sexual relations where what I want to do is different from what I want done to me?
Or are all of those things unfair and immoral also?
Or is this notion of “priority” in a relationship somehow the most important thing ever, such that nobody could ever consider other things more worth having?
Honestly I don’t see the asymmetry in all the examples you just mentioned. You can make it sound asymmetrical, but as stated it isn’t, and if it actually were, it actually would be unfair.
It would be really unfair, if you insisted upon always being the employer and never the employee, and were never willing to ever do any work of your own in your life. (And then you expect people to give you money? For what?) But people don’t do that (maybe Donald Trump does), so it’s not a problem.
It would be really unfair, if you didn’t want to work but your spouse forced you to work and pay all the bills on the grounds that they didn’t want to work and it was “your job” somehow.
It would be really unfair, if the only thing you cared about in sex was what you want to do and have done to you, and your partner’s feelings don’t matter. In fact, in the extreme case we call that rape.
Want to try again? All your examples fail miserably, because they aren’t really asymmetrical in the way that “priority” polyamory is asymmetrical.
Why is it OK for me to hire an employee and give them money in exchange for doing what I want, when I’m not willing to take money from them in exchange for doing what they want?
Why is it OK for me to work full time while my husband takes care of our household, when I’m not willing to take care of the household while my husband works full time?
Why is it OK to have sexual relations where what I want to do is different from what I want done to me?
Or are all of those things unfair and immoral also?
Or is this notion of “priority” in a relationship somehow the most important thing ever, such that nobody could ever consider other things more worth having?
Honestly I don’t see the asymmetry in all the examples you just mentioned. You can make it sound asymmetrical, but as stated it isn’t, and if it actually were, it actually would be unfair.
It would be really unfair, if you insisted upon always being the employer and never the employee, and were never willing to ever do any work of your own in your life. (And then you expect people to give you money? For what?) But people don’t do that (maybe Donald Trump does), so it’s not a problem.
It would be really unfair, if you didn’t want to work but your spouse forced you to work and pay all the bills on the grounds that they didn’t want to work and it was “your job” somehow.
It would be really unfair, if the only thing you cared about in sex was what you want to do and have done to you, and your partner’s feelings don’t matter. In fact, in the extreme case we call that rape.
Want to try again? All your examples fail miserably, because they aren’t really asymmetrical in the way that “priority” polyamory is asymmetrical.
Nope, I’m done trying.