I do think a lot of it comes from evolutionary imperatives. Sex came before tribes. Platonic friendships come and go but we don’t really feel emotionally hurt from them. Polyamory is a mixture of those two main types of interpersonal relationships. For polyamory to become the default, the very foundation of society has to change for children to grow up and develop a very different set of normative behaviors. Of course other aspects of life would change along with it such as who makes money for the family, the institutions that people develop their world view and grow up in such as school and workplace, etc. The current structure of our societal institutions came out of those ancient paradigms of interpersonal relationships as the distinct concept of school and workplace has existed in almost identical forms for a very long time.
Monogamy is not a human universal among hunter gatherer tribes. It’s practiced in some tribes and not in others. Evolution allowed humans to be very flexible about the kind of arragements that are possible.
I was referring to the fact that the ancestors of sapiens probably didn’t live in tribes but have developed sexual reproduction. It is also possible that the ability to feel emotions only developed after we have adopted the tribal lifestyle.
I do think a lot of it comes from evolutionary imperatives. Sex came before tribes. Platonic friendships come and go but we don’t really feel emotionally hurt from them. Polyamory is a mixture of those two main types of interpersonal relationships. For polyamory to become the default, the very foundation of society has to change for children to grow up and develop a very different set of normative behaviors. Of course other aspects of life would change along with it such as who makes money for the family, the institutions that people develop their world view and grow up in such as school and workplace, etc. The current structure of our societal institutions came out of those ancient paradigms of interpersonal relationships as the distinct concept of school and workplace has existed in almost identical forms for a very long time.
Wow, that’s so not my experience. I get hurt by those a lot.
Your experience is certainly valid. I was making a generalization in comparison to relationship with a sexual reproduction partner.
Monogamy is not a human universal among hunter gatherer tribes. It’s practiced in some tribes and not in others. Evolution allowed humans to be very flexible about the kind of arragements that are possible.
I was referring to the fact that the ancestors of sapiens probably didn’t live in tribes but have developed sexual reproduction. It is also possible that the ability to feel emotions only developed after we have adopted the tribal lifestyle.