My understanding of Eliezer’s argument is something like
Baking positions on complex issues into the grammar of a language is bad
Therefore, we should refuse to consider that and instead choose a different standard
It seems like the most reasonable resolution criteria when unsure how to describe someone is to go with their preference. (Similarly, you might choose to prefer endonyms over exonyms when describing a country or whatever.)
It does not seem to me that he is claiming that no one associates pronouns with socially-perceived sex categories or anything like that, though I haven’t read everything he has said on the topic. I agree with a lot of the points you made, but they feel unrelated to the ones Eliezer made.
My understanding of Eliezer’s argument is something like
Baking positions on complex issues into the grammar of a language is bad
Therefore, we should refuse to consider that and instead choose a different standard
It seems like the most reasonable resolution criteria when unsure how to describe someone is to go with their preference. (Similarly, you might choose to prefer endonyms over exonyms when describing a country or whatever.)
It does not seem to me that he is claiming that no one associates pronouns with socially-perceived sex categories or anything like that, though I haven’t read everything he has said on the topic. I agree with a lot of the points you made, but they feel unrelated to the ones Eliezer made.