Sure, but the fact that my System 1 is pushing me towards status seeking is evidence that now is a good time to do it.
In Ben’s case, it wouldn’t surprise me at all if the only plausible strategy to get your aunt to loosen her grip is indeed for him to convince you and his dad to form a coalition with him and try to persuade his mom to loosen up.
Nope nope nope, beware perverse incentives and motivated cognition. Part of what I did was give Ben a handful of frames and trigger-action patterns and clever tricks that allowed him to completely route around this whole class of problem and in fact win her approval on other questions in the same space, once he ditched the point-scoring behavior.
In general, I suspect that point-scoring behavior is the right answer less than 5% of the time (though I admit I pulled that number out of an anonymous butt).
Sure, but the fact that my System 1 is pushing me towards status seeking is evidence that now is a good time to do it.
In Ben’s case, it wouldn’t surprise me at all if the only plausible strategy to get your aunt to loosen her grip is indeed for him to convince you and his dad to form a coalition with him and try to persuade his mom to loosen up.
Nope nope nope, beware perverse incentives and motivated cognition. Part of what I did was give Ben a handful of frames and trigger-action patterns and clever tricks that allowed him to completely route around this whole class of problem and in fact win her approval on other questions in the same space, once he ditched the point-scoring behavior.
In general, I suspect that point-scoring behavior is the right answer less than 5% of the time (though I admit I pulled that number out of an anonymous butt).