Mostly a concerted effort on my part to find people who were good at these things, talk to them, and inhabit their positions with empathy. A lot of it was finding my own aesthetic analogies for what they were doing, then checking in with them to see ways the analogy didn’t work, and tweaking as needed.
It used to be really hard for me to see things as ugly, but I was able to get that skill.
Prior to that, it used to be really hard for me to judge people, but I was also able to learn that skill.
What changed?
Mostly a concerted effort on my part to find people who were good at these things, talk to them, and inhabit their positions with empathy. A lot of it was finding my own aesthetic analogies for what they were doing, then checking in with them to see ways the analogy didn’t work, and tweaking as needed.