It’s certainly a good idea to frame it subjectively: that’s one way of bypassing knee-jerk defenses. Not “Your religion is useless because of X, W, Z” but “I have stopped believing in my religion because of X, Y, Z”. It’s certainly more sympathetic, and actually carries the exact same arguments, more sympathetically and without the added “and you must think like me on this, there is no other way to think of the world consistently”, which, while I believe is objectively true, is seen as subjective by the other party, and a subjective statement that claims to be objective is arrogant and annoying.
It’s certainly a good idea to frame it subjectively: that’s one way of bypassing knee-jerk defenses. Not “Your religion is useless because of X, W, Z” but “I have stopped believing in my religion because of X, Y, Z”. It’s certainly more sympathetic, and actually carries the exact same arguments, more sympathetically and without the added “and you must think like me on this, there is no other way to think of the world consistently”, which, while I believe is objectively true, is seen as subjective by the other party, and a subjective statement that claims to be objective is arrogant and annoying.