I was actually pointing-out that you were trying to coerce a bargain: We’ll ignore you unless you follow our edits
… What do you think this site is? There is no “we” or “our”. Not a single person on this site will particularly care about what I think on this. And it goes against my honor to downvote you out of spite, which means I have zero leverage over you.
I was giving you advice because I saw you doing something that I know is self-desctructive. But you’ve exhausted my good will with this comment so I’m no longer going to do this conversation.
I don’t appreciate unsolitced advice on how you’d prefer I communicate; as I mentioned, your norms of politeness are a recent, regional change, where you consider it “self-destructive” that I referred to the 5% spending on ship’s crew as “tiny”. That’s bizarre.
You then conveniently ignore the core of my point, again: you hoped to coerce the bargain, by saying I should be ignored if I don’t meet your standards of communications, regardless of the merits of my arguments. You specifically said “Hence fewer people will believe your factual points.” Yet, if there is some person Bob, who ignores the factual points, then I know I don’t need to convince him; he is fooled by appearances, and fails to appreciate the facts. Bob won’t be able to provide any valuable insight or substantive critique of the concept itself. I notice you won’t be able to provide any valuable insight into the factual points and concept, either. I hope to avoid such people, so I am glad that you take your unsolicited advice away! :)
“A British person would see hedging around a difficult issue as politeness and civility, whereas a Dutch person might see the same thing as actually dishonest.”—BBC’s recent explainer clip “Why the Dutch Always Say What They Mean”
What Rafael referred to as “self-destructive” is considered appropriate in other cultures, and has absolutely nothing to do with epistemology. It belongs on LessRude, not LessWrong.
A great explainer on this concept of “unsolicited advice on a tangent I don’t value, which is then a reason to throw-up-hands in disgust” is Theramintrees’ video on the Martyr, “When Saviors Go Bad”
The concept Theramintrees discusses which is relevant is this:
The Savior-Complex rushes-in, offering help which that recipient did NOT ask for (in this case, I did not ask for “advice on the tone and presentation”—Rafael decided on his own that my tone “needs saving!”). Then, when the recipient is not gracious and fawning for the Savior’s help, that Savior declares their target ‘the problem’ and the Savior rushes-off in anger, to target another person with their unsolicited and irrelevant ‘help’.
… What do you think this site is? There is no “we” or “our”. Not a single person on this site will particularly care about what I think on this. And it goes against my honor to downvote you out of spite, which means I have zero leverage over you.
I was giving you advice because I saw you doing something that I know is self-desctructive. But you’ve exhausted my good will with this comment so I’m no longer going to do this conversation.
I don’t appreciate unsolitced advice on how you’d prefer I communicate; as I mentioned, your norms of politeness are a recent, regional change, where you consider it “self-destructive” that I referred to the 5% spending on ship’s crew as “tiny”. That’s bizarre.
You then conveniently ignore the core of my point, again: you hoped to coerce the bargain, by saying I should be ignored if I don’t meet your standards of communications, regardless of the merits of my arguments. You specifically said “Hence fewer people will believe your factual points.” Yet, if there is some person Bob, who ignores the factual points, then I know I don’t need to convince him; he is fooled by appearances, and fails to appreciate the facts. Bob won’t be able to provide any valuable insight or substantive critique of the concept itself. I notice you won’t be able to provide any valuable insight into the factual points and concept, either. I hope to avoid such people, so I am glad that you take your unsolicited advice away! :)
“A British person would see hedging around a difficult issue as politeness and civility, whereas a Dutch person might see the same thing as actually dishonest.”—BBC’s recent explainer clip “Why the Dutch Always Say What They Mean”
What Rafael referred to as “self-destructive” is considered appropriate in other cultures, and has absolutely nothing to do with epistemology. It belongs on LessRude, not LessWrong.
A great explainer on this concept of “unsolicited advice on a tangent I don’t value, which is then a reason to throw-up-hands in disgust” is Theramintrees’ video on the Martyr, “When Saviors Go Bad”
The concept Theramintrees discusses which is relevant is this:
The Savior-Complex rushes-in, offering help which that recipient did NOT ask for (in this case, I did not ask for “advice on the tone and presentation”—Rafael decided on his own that my tone “needs saving!”). Then, when the recipient is not gracious and fawning for the Savior’s help, that Savior declares their target ‘the problem’ and the Savior rushes-off in anger, to target another person with their unsolicited and irrelevant ‘help’.