A great explainer on this concept of “unsolicited advice on a tangent I don’t value, which is then a reason to throw-up-hands in disgust” is Theramintrees’ video on the Martyr, “When Saviors Go Bad”
The concept Theramintrees discusses which is relevant is this:
The Savior-Complex rushes-in, offering help which that recipient did NOT ask for (in this case, I did not ask for “advice on the tone and presentation”—Rafael decided on his own that my tone “needs saving!”). Then, when the recipient is not gracious and fawning for the Savior’s help, that Savior declares their target ‘the problem’ and the Savior rushes-off in anger, to target another person with their unsolicited and irrelevant ‘help’.
A great explainer on this concept of “unsolicited advice on a tangent I don’t value, which is then a reason to throw-up-hands in disgust” is Theramintrees’ video on the Martyr, “When Saviors Go Bad”
The concept Theramintrees discusses which is relevant is this:
The Savior-Complex rushes-in, offering help which that recipient did NOT ask for (in this case, I did not ask for “advice on the tone and presentation”—Rafael decided on his own that my tone “needs saving!”). Then, when the recipient is not gracious and fawning for the Savior’s help, that Savior declares their target ‘the problem’ and the Savior rushes-off in anger, to target another person with their unsolicited and irrelevant ‘help’.