Fair point. I should say, rather, “make sure not to expect your loved ones to ‘help you or anyone else’” with their emotions; sometimes emotions are legitimately self-serving.
As long as they know I wouldn’t want them to be sad.
I don’t really see how that form of grief is self-serving; if you need to grieve to get over my death, fine, but isn’t it more self-serving to be happy?
I don’t think he was trying to dictate anyone’s emotional state.
Fair point. I should say, rather, “make sure not to expect your loved ones to ‘help you or anyone else’” with their emotions; sometimes emotions are legitimately self-serving.
As long as they know I wouldn’t want them to be sad.
I don’t really see how that form of grief is self-serving; if you need to grieve to get over my death, fine, but isn’t it more self-serving to be happy?