Well, damn. I started out reading this really skeptically, but the process fit my own past experiences of changing core beliefs frighteningly well. (The only thing that’s ever noticeably worked for me is something like showing that one of my IFS parts is a hypocrite, which results in it more or less self-destructing and allowing change to happen.) I just emailed a Coherence Therapy practitioner, since I’m looking for a new therapist; this seems worth a try.
I never found a Coherence Therapy practitioner, but I found a really excellent IFS practitioner who’s helped me break down many of my perpetual hangups in ways compatible with this post.
In particular, one difference between the self-IFS I’d attempted before is that I’d previously tried to destroy some parts as irrational or hypocritical, where the therapist was very good at being non-judgmental towards them. That approach paid better dividends.
Well, damn. I started out reading this really skeptically, but the process fit my own past experiences of changing core beliefs frighteningly well. (The only thing that’s ever noticeably worked for me is something like showing that one of my IFS parts is a hypocrite, which results in it more or less self-destructing and allowing change to happen.) I just emailed a Coherence Therapy practitioner, since I’m looking for a new therapist; this seems worth a try.
Good luck with the therapist! Curious to hear how that goes, if there’s anything about your experience that you feel like sharing.
I never found a Coherence Therapy practitioner, but I found a really excellent IFS practitioner who’s helped me break down many of my perpetual hangups in ways compatible with this post.
In particular, one difference between the self-IFS I’d attempted before is that I’d previously tried to destroy some parts as irrational or hypocritical, where the therapist was very good at being non-judgmental towards them. That approach paid better dividends.