I approve of the general goals behind this post. Affection is great! That said, it sounds kind of like it was written on ecstasy. And I’m not sure the exact approach will work generally.
That’s an excellent summary.
For my part I’d never dream of saying or declaring implementation of anything remotely like such a protocol. Heck, I might consider saying something as gushy sounding as “#1” to a partner I had been dating for 6 months but even then I’d use phrasing that was a bit more mutual and engaging and sounded less like “I’m a Needy Carebear”.
But abhorrence to making any declaration myself aside I have no particular problem with interacting with others who were trying to implement such a protocol. If Nyan (or someone else who isn’t a jackass) really wants a hug then sure, I’ll give him a hug. To be honest I don’t know what else he has in mind with his whole “loving relationships” and “optimal affection” idea. I suppose he can hold my hand if he wants to. Whatever, I hear they do that sort of thing in other cultures.
#3 in particular is a little badly worded—how far over one’s limits is one expected to tolerate encroachment? How many times?
I am also fortunate in as much as when I am the recipient of an excessive amount of not particularly welcome affection it feels weird and peculiar—similar to if someone started making faces and speaking nonsense—but not threateningly unpleasant and creepy. It no doubt helps a bit that my instincts aren’t warning me that I am at risk of being involuntarily impregnated by a low quality mate. Even with this being the case I wouldn’t be so cavalier in giving licence to encroach my limits so I can imagine that #3 would cause all sorts of problems for a lot of people.
That’s an excellent summary.
For my part I’d never dream of saying or declaring implementation of anything remotely like such a protocol. Heck, I might consider saying something as gushy sounding as “#1” to a partner I had been dating for 6 months but even then I’d use phrasing that was a bit more mutual and engaging and sounded less like “I’m a Needy Carebear”.
But abhorrence to making any declaration myself aside I have no particular problem with interacting with others who were trying to implement such a protocol. If Nyan (or someone else who isn’t a jackass) really wants a hug then sure, I’ll give him a hug. To be honest I don’t know what else he has in mind with his whole “loving relationships” and “optimal affection” idea. I suppose he can hold my hand if he wants to. Whatever, I hear they do that sort of thing in other cultures.
I am also fortunate in as much as when I am the recipient of an excessive amount of not particularly welcome affection it feels weird and peculiar—similar to if someone started making faces and speaking nonsense—but not threateningly unpleasant and creepy. It no doubt helps a bit that my instincts aren’t warning me that I am at risk of being involuntarily impregnated by a low quality mate. Even with this being the case I wouldn’t be so cavalier in giving licence to encroach my limits so I can imagine that #3 would cause all sorts of problems for a lot of people.