I can’t help but feel that this exchange is an example of your earlier point, Lumifer, that if one doesn’t use blunt negative feedback the audience can more easily choose to ignore it. It looks like you’re optimizing your criticisms to score points rather than to change Shannon’s behavior, and this seems to me to be a principal failure mode of the ‘rip apart’ style of feedback.
looks like you’re optimizing your criticisms to score points rather than to change Shannon’s behavior
Hard to evaluate such things from the inside, of course, but… First, I have no interest in changing Shannon’s behavior and I think having such a goal would be both strange and inappropriate. Second, I didn’t understand the point of her post and my usual approach to such situations is to get a few sharp sticks and start poking :-) I know that not everyone is a fan of such methods but I find that they work sufficiently well.
All in all, my weakly held opinion at the moment is that the post wasn’t all that interesting—it was just a failed attempt to promote a psychotherapy practice.
I can’t help but feel that this exchange is an example of your earlier point, Lumifer, that if one doesn’t use blunt negative feedback the audience can more easily choose to ignore it. It looks like you’re optimizing your criticisms to score points rather than to change Shannon’s behavior, and this seems to me to be a principal failure mode of the ‘rip apart’ style of feedback.
Hard to evaluate such things from the inside, of course, but… First, I have no interest in changing Shannon’s behavior and I think having such a goal would be both strange and inappropriate. Second, I didn’t understand the point of her post and my usual approach to such situations is to get a few sharp sticks and start poking :-) I know that not everyone is a fan of such methods but I find that they work sufficiently well.
All in all, my weakly held opinion at the moment is that the post wasn’t all that interesting—it was just a failed attempt to promote a psychotherapy practice.