Because it is inappropriate to intentionally be doing things that bring you sexual arousal at work:
To be in a sexually aroused state is very distracting, and she intentionally chose to boost that state at lease somewhat. Not good for workplace productivity
It is also a bit threatening given he can statistically assume she has sexual interest toward men and is sitting right behind him in an aroused state which she in some sense intentionally chose to be in. Whether or not she would plausibly do anything sexual, it’s totally normal that it would raise the hairs on the back of your neck somewhat, because the person who watches porn at work has also already sorted themself into cohort of “person who does weird and unpredictable sexual things like it’s normal, likely on impulse”.
Even if still there is no chance of them doing something sexual and they are able to get back on task with zero distraction, it doesn’t bode well for employment choice that you chose someone so impulsive and socially strange. Like “What else is in store today..? I feel kinda unsettled” is a totally normal gut instinct to have after that
It kept the burden on him to follow social convention, and forced him to (with-no-help) navigate her defection socially, while she herself defected from following convention. In a workplace if you want to break social convention, you give a heads up at least. While watching porn at work was still too egregious for that, I’m just saying this more neutral workplace rudeness still applies. A more neutral example of this is an employee goes to office job in burner clothing, which is highly abnormal. Now the boss has to wonder “Should I address this? Or is this a one time thing? How do I address it if I want to? Is it actually morally okay and I’m being a prick and out of touch? Damn IDK but why did [employee] even put me in this weird position, we are both supposed to be here for the company’s productivity after all...”
I’m confused—why did you care that Rachel was watching porn?
because it makes the situation awkward for people with normal social instincts.
On the other hand, people with normal social instincts do not hire people to sit behind them all day at home while they’re working.
I don’t think this is true. Part of your strength as a rationalist is the ability to try things despite them being socially awkward.
And people with normal social instincts don’t know why it makes the situation awkward to them?
Depends on the person, but also seems irrelevant. Knowing why you feel a certain emotion doesn’t make it go away, certainly not if it’s awkwardness.
Because it is inappropriate to intentionally be doing things that bring you sexual arousal at work:
To be in a sexually aroused state is very distracting, and she intentionally chose to boost that state at lease somewhat. Not good for workplace productivity
It is also a bit threatening given he can statistically assume she has sexual interest toward men and is sitting right behind him in an aroused state which she in some sense intentionally chose to be in. Whether or not she would plausibly do anything sexual, it’s totally normal that it would raise the hairs on the back of your neck somewhat, because the person who watches porn at work has also already sorted themself into cohort of “person who does weird and unpredictable sexual things like it’s normal, likely on impulse”.
Even if still there is no chance of them doing something sexual and they are able to get back on task with zero distraction, it doesn’t bode well for employment choice that you chose someone so impulsive and socially strange. Like “What else is in store today..? I feel kinda unsettled” is a totally normal gut instinct to have after that
It kept the burden on him to follow social convention, and forced him to (with-no-help) navigate her defection socially, while she herself defected from following convention. In a workplace if you want to break social convention, you give a heads up at least. While watching porn at work was still too egregious for that, I’m just saying this more neutral workplace rudeness still applies. A more neutral example of this is an employee goes to office job in burner clothing, which is highly abnormal. Now the boss has to wonder “Should I address this? Or is this a one time thing? How do I address it if I want to? Is it actually morally okay and I’m being a prick and out of touch? Damn IDK but why did [employee] even put me in this weird position, we are both supposed to be here for the company’s productivity after all...”