Not much, it just didn’t seem in my opinion as important (though it felt that way at the time), and the backbone growth didn’t particularly propagate through my life, apart from ending that whole middle school/high school like-someone-but-never-do-anything-about-it thing.
Short answer, yes.
Long answer, we’re good friends now, and its working out much better with a backbone. The main issue with the relationship not working is that a lot of what Robin Hanson speculates about “mating behavior” is true with her (to the point that when I explained those ideas to her she thought I was just being ridiculously insightful and empathetic). Other than that, she’s really fun to be around.
I’d have said that realizing in the first case that you were running your mind and your time was fairly vertebral. What am I missing?
Probably just curiosity at my end, but in the second case, did she turn out to be someone you wanted to spend time with at all?
Not much, it just didn’t seem in my opinion as important (though it felt that way at the time), and the backbone growth didn’t particularly propagate through my life, apart from ending that whole middle school/high school like-someone-but-never-do-anything-about-it thing.
Short answer, yes.
Long answer, we’re good friends now, and its working out much better with a backbone. The main issue with the relationship not working is that a lot of what Robin Hanson speculates about “mating behavior” is true with her (to the point that when I explained those ideas to her she thought I was just being ridiculously insightful and empathetic). Other than that, she’s really fun to be around.