I would have been happier with “I own you one. Let me know if you need a favor sometime.” Or even, “That was a big help, let’s grab lunch some time. On me.”
I think the monetization of social relationship where money is a poor substitute for what it is replacing—the exchange of personal considerations via personal actions. This isn’t to say I don’t value money either directly myself or as a very beneficial social institution. I just don’t see it as a universally applicable tool.
I am a fan of the whole “pay it forward” mentality when it comes to small(ish) social consideration or others. I see that very much in a networks effect type situation where even if I don’t receive the favor from the person I gave on to, if they passed that on (and especially if they adopt a similar attitude towards other) then I will like be paid back several fold in the future. I don’t see money working quite the same way in these situations. I think it become too much of an “at distance” exchange that ends up potentially separating us, or at least not serving to really bring anyone together. I see the like-for-like exchange of favors working in that direction.
I would have been happier with “I own you one. Let me know if you need a favor sometime.” Or even, “That was a big help, let’s grab lunch some time. On me.”
I think the monetization of social relationship where money is a poor substitute for what it is replacing—the exchange of personal considerations via personal actions. This isn’t to say I don’t value money either directly myself or as a very beneficial social institution. I just don’t see it as a universally applicable tool.
I am a fan of the whole “pay it forward” mentality when it comes to small(ish) social consideration or others. I see that very much in a networks effect type situation where even if I don’t receive the favor from the person I gave on to, if they passed that on (and especially if they adopt a similar attitude towards other) then I will like be paid back several fold in the future. I don’t see money working quite the same way in these situations. I think it become too much of an “at distance” exchange that ends up potentially separating us, or at least not serving to really bring anyone together. I see the like-for-like exchange of favors working in that direction.
yeah I think the crux is something like the feeling that the money closes out other dimensions rather than being in addition to other dimensions