The “good fences make good neighbors” thing is something I have heard elsewhere, and wonder about. I know it’s a widely repeated proverb, but I don’t know where it comes from. Do you have personal experience with why this is good wisdom? The obvious drawback with implementing it is cost (to duplicate facilities that are cheaper to share) and I would rather not incur the cost without understanding the why.
It’s pretty much the general reason for existence of private property. One person wants to do X with an object or a room, another person wants to do Y, both feel very strongly about their choices. What now? If the answer is “they will fight” or “they will behave passively-aggressively and the more persistent/annoying one wins”, this will lead to some very unpleasant behavior.
Yes, it is a trade-off: greater material costs for less fighting over things.
Personal experience: (1) I am introverted, when someone pisses me off, I need to get away from that person to cool down; if I don’t have that opportunity, it drives me crazy. (2) I have seen multiple women living in the same household fight over kitchen use. To lesser degree, also fights over TV. -- Both of these seem like minor problems, but “minor problem repeating every fucking day” becomes a huge problem.
The “good fences make good neighbors” thing is something I have heard elsewhere, and wonder about. I know it’s a widely repeated proverb, but I don’t know where it comes from. Do you have personal experience with why this is good wisdom? The obvious drawback with implementing it is cost (to duplicate facilities that are cheaper to share) and I would rather not incur the cost without understanding the why.
It’s pretty much the general reason for existence of private property. One person wants to do X with an object or a room, another person wants to do Y, both feel very strongly about their choices. What now? If the answer is “they will fight” or “they will behave passively-aggressively and the more persistent/annoying one wins”, this will lead to some very unpleasant behavior.
Yes, it is a trade-off: greater material costs for less fighting over things.
Personal experience: (1) I am introverted, when someone pisses me off, I need to get away from that person to cool down; if I don’t have that opportunity, it drives me crazy. (2) I have seen multiple women living in the same household fight over kitchen use. To lesser degree, also fights over TV. -- Both of these seem like minor problems, but “minor problem repeating every fucking day” becomes a huge problem.