Directly after the minicamp, I made several time-management changes to my lifestyle that have persisted until now, giving me many effective extra hours per week.
a) Two of the changes I made account for most of the gains: cutting the tail of my gaming (not just Dominion) and buying a car. There were other changes but they were all an order of magnitude smaller.
b) The process I used does not require minicamp (but was caused by minicamp). You can do it now, in a couple hours. Write down everything you do in the 24*7 hours in a week. Look at the biggest chunks of time. There are two basic types: things you kinda have to do, and things you do because you want to. For those you have to do, ask (be curious!) how you can spend less time doing them, and then see if any of your methods are net positive. For those you want to do, ask how much better spending all of this time is than spending half of this time. Wherever the value starts to drop off sharply, just cut back to that amount.
If it turns out that [IFS is] actively harmful or even significantly worse than average mainstream psychotherapy I will update strongly towards standard-retreat-rather-than-awesome.
This is one of those examples of trusting that something is well worth investigating because people you recently came to trust say it’s well worth investigating. Finding out that it wasn’t would cause me to take a step back and wonder again “have I been brainwashed? are my defenses truly up like I feel they are? was the minicamp actually awesome or just the standard glow of decently-run retreats, ’cause if it wasn’t actually awesome then the halo effect is an invalid bias, not a useful heuristic”.
A couple of notes:
a) Two of the changes I made account for most of the gains: cutting the tail of my gaming (not just Dominion) and buying a car. There were other changes but they were all an order of magnitude smaller. b) The process I used does not require minicamp (but was caused by minicamp). You can do it now, in a couple hours. Write down everything you do in the 24*7 hours in a week. Look at the biggest chunks of time. There are two basic types: things you kinda have to do, and things you do because you want to. For those you have to do, ask (be curious!) how you can spend less time doing them, and then see if any of your methods are net positive. For those you want to do, ask how much better spending all of this time is than spending half of this time. Wherever the value starts to drop off sharply, just cut back to that amount.
This is one of those examples of trusting that something is well worth investigating because people you recently came to trust say it’s well worth investigating. Finding out that it wasn’t would cause me to take a step back and wonder again “have I been brainwashed? are my defenses truly up like I feel they are? was the minicamp actually awesome or just the standard glow of decently-run retreats, ’cause if it wasn’t actually awesome then the halo effect is an invalid bias, not a useful heuristic”.