I can only provide my opinions and best guesses, of dubious quality. Given that there are men whose preferences I do not understand at all, I certainly have many blind spots.
I expressed similar thoughts in my answer. The more men who compare notes, I think the better we can discern which preferences are idiosyncratic and which are universal, so I’ll try to point out where we differ. That won’t, by itself, tell us which of us is weird.
The behavior I associate with young women is wearing light colors, especially pink, and laughing a lot. The opposite of attractive behavior is bitterness, and crude materialism. If you try wearing pink (which I recommend trying), your behavior needs to match, otherwise it backfires. With regards to materialism, not sure if I can explain it shortly: women of all ages are impressed by men’s display of wealth, but the young ones express it with more plausible deniability (they are impressed by an awesome car or a fantastic vacation, rather than high salary per se).
Not sure if I agree with this one. I do think clothing can be associated with older or younger people (varies with culture), and it can backfire if your behavior doesn’t match, but I think just the color is oversimplifying it. I also think behaviors/attitudes can be associated with age (innocence?), but I’m not sure that I’d pick those as the most salient. Even young-seeming women can have very different personalities.
Now here are things I am less certain about, probably just my personal preferences: I prefer non-smokers, non-drunks, without tattoos. I prefer people who are nice, altruistic, curious.
I share those preferences but might not have picked that set as the most salient. I especially admire drive and honesty. Smoking is low status now; a vice of the lower class. Drunkenness depends very much on personality while drunk but seems unhealthy regardless. Large tattoos are a turn off, but very small ones (while not ideal) are not a dealbreaker.
laugh hysterically with a high-pitched voice
I find this obnoxious.
Now the most controversial part: Learn to cook! :)
Agree this is a plus. Doesn’t seem controversial to me though.
Haha, same here. But it is a behavior that exists for a reason. (It is obnoxious when it is done too much or too crudely.) It sends the signal “pay attention: young woman here” across the whole room immediately. All heterosexual men notice. What is the point of being attractive, if potential mates happen to be looking in a different direction?
I guess the trick is to find the nearest things that is not obnoxious. (That is, use this description as a pointer in the approximate direction, not literally.) It is not an art that I practice, so I cannot provide exact instructions.
However:
high pitch is a signal of feminity (but maybe avoid too high, unless you are an opera singer)
laughing signals status (you feel safe to laugh audibly, don’t expect to be bullied by other girls)
I mostly agree with this.
I expressed similar thoughts in my answer. The more men who compare notes, I think the better we can discern which preferences are idiosyncratic and which are universal, so I’ll try to point out where we differ. That won’t, by itself, tell us which of us is weird.
Not sure if I agree with this one. I do think clothing can be associated with older or younger people (varies with culture), and it can backfire if your behavior doesn’t match, but I think just the color is oversimplifying it. I also think behaviors/attitudes can be associated with age (innocence?), but I’m not sure that I’d pick those as the most salient. Even young-seeming women can have very different personalities.
I share those preferences but might not have picked that set as the most salient. I especially admire drive and honesty. Smoking is low status now; a vice of the lower class. Drunkenness depends very much on personality while drunk but seems unhealthy regardless. Large tattoos are a turn off, but very small ones (while not ideal) are not a dealbreaker.
I find this obnoxious.
Agree this is a plus. Doesn’t seem controversial to me though.
Haha, same here. But it is a behavior that exists for a reason. (It is obnoxious when it is done too much or too crudely.) It sends the signal “pay attention: young woman here” across the whole room immediately. All heterosexual men notice. What is the point of being attractive, if potential mates happen to be looking in a different direction?
I guess the trick is to find the nearest things that is not obnoxious. (That is, use this description as a pointer in the approximate direction, not literally.) It is not an art that I practice, so I cannot provide exact instructions.
However:
high pitch is a signal of feminity (but maybe avoid too high, unless you are an opera singer)
laughing signals status (you feel safe to laugh audibly, don’t expect to be bullied by other girls)