I think I either moderately or strongly disagree about the “bend the rules” part. I think some locals are far too willing to bend rules or break implicit (and in many cases explicit) norms, and many other locals are far too unwilling to enforce norms or to punish norm deviance. Arguably the combination has already gotten quite a few people in trouble and has caused a number of negative externalities to others, and there’s no particular reason to think this will stop.
I’m more sympathetic to “doing hard things requires doing things that cause people to disapprove of you” claim, particularly if we restrict to people who negatively judge your competency (as opposed to negatively judge your morality).
I think I either moderately or strongly disagree about the “bend the rules” part. I think some locals are far too willing to bend rules or break implicit (and in many cases explicit) norms, and many other locals are far too unwilling to enforce norms or to punish norm deviance. Arguably the combination has already gotten quite a few people in trouble and has caused a number of negative externalities to others, and there’s no particular reason to think this will stop.
I’m more sympathetic to “doing hard things requires doing things that cause people to disapprove of you” claim, particularly if we restrict to people who negatively judge your competency (as opposed to negatively judge your morality).