People likely don’t comment on your clothing because it is literally unremarkable. In my experience, people will comment on clothing that stands out, though negative comments generally only come from those close to me (and these are the comments that are most helpful for improvement, hard as they are to take). In fact, if I don’t get positive comments about an article of clothing that I expect to be complimented on I take that as evidence that it doesn’t look good on me. It’s possible that no one among your close friends or family pays attention to clothing or knows much about it; if this is the case it will be helpful to find someone who is knowledgeable who you feel comfortable asking for advice.
One of the best places to get feedback is the store where you’re shopping. The people who work there might give you good advice since they should know their product, but be careful: they often work on commission, so you’ll need a good bullshit detector. It can be better to ask your fellow customers, and it turns out that this is a perfectly socially acceptable thing to do as long as you’re polite and not pushy. Also, their answers are more likely to be honest than if you asked someone you know about clothing you already own, since they won’t have to worry about making you feel bad. I have had good results with questions like “do you think this fits me?” or “does this style work for me?” As always, take into account what kind of person they are (or present themselves as) when you hear their feedback and weight it appropriately.
Another thing that I do that may have increased the amount of feedback I get is that if I see someone I work with wearing an article of clothing that I like, I compliment them. This has become a normal thing to do at my (mostly male) workplace, and so my coworkers are more likely to compliment me. I hesitate to speculate on causality, but I think there is a little. I also sometimes compliment people I don’t know on their clothing in cafes or even on the street, but that’s mostly just an ongoing effort to be more social.
Finally, go to a LW meetup and find someone with fashion sense (if you can) and talk to them. They are far more likely than the average person to follow something close to Crocker’s rules.
People likely don’t comment on your clothing because it is literally unremarkable. In my experience, people will comment on clothing that stands out, though negative comments generally only come from those close to me (and these are the comments that are most helpful for improvement, hard as they are to take). In fact, if I don’t get positive comments about an article of clothing that I expect to be complimented on I take that as evidence that it doesn’t look good on me. It’s possible that no one among your close friends or family pays attention to clothing or knows much about it; if this is the case it will be helpful to find someone who is knowledgeable who you feel comfortable asking for advice.
One of the best places to get feedback is the store where you’re shopping. The people who work there might give you good advice since they should know their product, but be careful: they often work on commission, so you’ll need a good bullshit detector. It can be better to ask your fellow customers, and it turns out that this is a perfectly socially acceptable thing to do as long as you’re polite and not pushy. Also, their answers are more likely to be honest than if you asked someone you know about clothing you already own, since they won’t have to worry about making you feel bad. I have had good results with questions like “do you think this fits me?” or “does this style work for me?” As always, take into account what kind of person they are (or present themselves as) when you hear their feedback and weight it appropriately.
Another thing that I do that may have increased the amount of feedback I get is that if I see someone I work with wearing an article of clothing that I like, I compliment them. This has become a normal thing to do at my (mostly male) workplace, and so my coworkers are more likely to compliment me. I hesitate to speculate on causality, but I think there is a little. I also sometimes compliment people I don’t know on their clothing in cafes or even on the street, but that’s mostly just an ongoing effort to be more social.
Finally, go to a LW meetup and find someone with fashion sense (if you can) and talk to them. They are far more likely than the average person to follow something close to Crocker’s rules.