It’s very rare to get feedback on fashion—I could probably count on two hands the number of times in my life that someone has said something about my clothing—so how do you improve?
People likely don’t comment on your clothing because it is literally unremarkable. In my experience, people will comment on clothing that stands out, though negative comments generally only come from those close to me (and these are the comments that are most helpful for improvement, hard as they are to take). In fact, if I don’t get positive comments about an article of clothing that I expect to be complimented on I take that as evidence that it doesn’t look good on me. It’s possible that no one among your close friends or family pays attention to clothing or knows much about it; if this is the case it will be helpful to find someone who is knowledgeable who you feel comfortable asking for advice.
One of the best places to get feedback is the store where you’re shopping. The people who work there might give you good advice since they should know their product, but be careful: they often work on commission, so you’ll need a good bullshit detector. It can be better to ask your fellow customers, and it turns out that this is a perfectly socially acceptable thing to do as long as you’re polite and not pushy. Also, their answers are more likely to be honest than if you asked someone you know about clothing you already own, since they won’t have to worry about making you feel bad. I have had good results with questions like “do you think this fits me?” or “does this style work for me?” As always, take into account what kind of person they are (or present themselves as) when you hear their feedback and weight it appropriately.
Another thing that I do that may have increased the amount of feedback I get is that if I see someone I work with wearing an article of clothing that I like, I compliment them. This has become a normal thing to do at my (mostly male) workplace, and so my coworkers are more likely to compliment me. I hesitate to speculate on causality, but I think there is a little. I also sometimes compliment people I don’t know on their clothing in cafes or even on the street, but that’s mostly just an ongoing effort to be more social.
Finally, go to a LW meetup and find someone with fashion sense (if you can) and talk to them. They are far more likely than the average person to follow something close to Crocker’s rules.
I ask people who I trust will actually criticize me.
My sister pretty vocally and specifically hates particular things that I wear, and will say so when asked. My girlfriend is incentivized to try and make wear nicer clothes, and knows that if I’m asking her for fashion advice I’m not going to be offended by whatever answer I get.
The internet is full of perfectly good fashion advice—a search for fashion tips + your body type or + the relevant social scene will work. There is very little bad fashion advice out there. For whatever reason it is not a topic that people enjoy writing about when they don’t know what they’re talking about. At worst you’ll be told to never do something only to later realize you can get away with it. “They’re more like guidelines anyway.”
I’m not sure what to do about lack of individualized feedback—it is important. I find that receive feedback on what I’m wearing routinely, though I that is probably something that happens on social, not professional occasions. I suppose one requirement must be friends who notice what I’m wearing. Gender of your social circle is relevant—women are more likely to comment and more likely to comment positively; men are likely to make fun of me if I wear something really stupid looking. I believe there are online forums where people post photos of themselves to receive feedback on their fashion (there are a few subreddits, r/malefashionadvice for instance). That’s probably easier than finding new friends. If you have money fashion and wardrobe consultants can work wonders.
I’ve subscribed to GQ and Details, and looked at other fashion magazines, and they are useless. They just show outfits, or particular items, and pile superlatives on them (‘snazzy’, ‘retro’, ‘bold’, ‘understated’, etc.). But they give no clue as to why one thing is better than another.
One theory to explain this is that women have some kind of holistic thinking that lets them make use of this kind of information—that by just looking at a bunch of examples they can pick out what the rules are—and that fashion magazine writing culture teaches how to write for women.
Useful writing on fashion for men is mostly about suits, which I avoid as much as possible because I hate wearing a tie.
They just show outfits, or particular items, and pile superlatives on them. But they give no clue as to why one thing is better than another.
I suspect if you read them more you would pick up on the patterns. People are generally good at learning rules from labeled examples. You’d have to be interested enough to read a lot, though.
One has to pay attention to demographic differences- and I probably should have considered that my advice would be read by people outside my own demographic before I posted it. Is it non-obvious that “Ask Andy About Clothes” isn’t the place for an urban 20-something to go find fashion advice?
I am 28, I live in downtown Oakland, I have found it a useful resource over the past few years, and I am regularly complemented on my appearance. So yes, it is non-obvious.
This is not to say that I disagree with the notion that it is important to consider context. If you are going clubbing you should probably dress differently then when you are going to work.
For non-professional, non-formal occasions? I mean look, there are additional degrees of possibly relevant demographics here and it is a bit hard to figure them out given that I don’t know you and don’t know what you’re optimizing for fashion wise. The point is, someone who says “Fedoras, yay!” and someone who says “Fedora’s boo!” can both be right depending on what you look like and what the context is. But “Ask Andy” doesn’t look like the place to go to figure out what to, say, wear to a rock concert.
Yes, for non-professional, non-formal occasions. But yes, not every subculture will be represented by every point of view offered. And I guess that’s partly my point—unless you know what you are looking for, there will be fashion advice online that you should not take. And if you don’t know where to start, then “just look for advice online” doesn’t help. Heck, the “doesn’t Justin Timberlake look ridiculous here” links posted elsewhere were giving tips on how to dress like him!
Regarding rock concerts, there are some that I’d totally show up to in my usual range of wear, to which Ask Andy is reasonably relevant. There are some that this wouldn’t make any sense, yes.
I suppose I was thinking of lists of “basic fashion tips”- for which most sites I’ve seen agree. Things like: match belt and shoes, avoid pleats, how to tell if your seat is too low or too high etc.
You won’t go too wrong following those—particularly the ones pertaining to fit. They are oftentimes needlessly restrictive, though. “Avoid pleats” is perhaps better than no guidance at all—but there are pleated pants that look just fine, and flat front can have issues too; fit is far more important.
Regarding pleats in particular, some general guidelines:
1) They are more likely to work if they’re cut to hang from the waist than from the hips (unfortunately far more common on store shelves).
2) Shallow pleats are probably going to look better than deep pleats.
3) They are not currently “in”, I believe. OTOH, that’s been cyclical over the last few decades with a relatively short period, and most people won’t look down on you for wearing pleats if they don’t look bad on you (there will be a few that are invested in their opinions on both sides).
4) If you are very slim, flat fronts are more likely to suit you. If you are very large, pleats are more likely to do better.
In either case, if they’re not being cut for you (which shouldn’t be the case, if you’re just getting your feet wet in dressing nicer), try them on first. Walk around a bit. Sit down. Move like you’ll be moving in the pants. If the pleats look really “puffy”, don’t get that pair of pants. If flat front pants aren’t hanging well on you, pleats might be worth trying on.
Interesting, I get feedback fairly frequently but only positive feedback for specific garments. I suspect that people simply don’t say anything if they think something looks hideous or just mediocre.
Heh, once I grew a beard and had it for about six months. No one said anything about it to me while I had it. When I shaved it off, I couldn’t go anywhere for a week without being told “You look SO GOOD clean-shaven.” I completely understand why no one wanted to tell me how bad it apparently looked while I had it, but I was really embarrassed in retrospect.
Fashion is a completely subjective opinion. If you want to be fashionable, you need to figure out who you’re trying to be fashionable for, and figure out what they like. In my case, this is easy, since the person I dress for is myself. I therefore choose clothing that is comfortable and functional given the large amount of time I spend outdoors. I do get comments on my clothing at times, which are sometimes complimentary and sometimes not. I think it’s best to wear the things you yourself like, even if you are dressing for someone else, though. Don’t you want to attract the kind of people who like the things you do?
I agree. Choice of goals is based on preferences. But in order to meet the goal of being fashionable, considering subjective opinions is the only way to be objectively successful. To expand on that, I think a person would have to consider things like which people they want to judge them as fashionable. You can’t please everyone—the person who likes goth styles is probably going to have a different aesthetic than the one who wears sweaters with kittens (although perhaps not always).
As a person you are influenced by all sorts of things and the people around you and their expectations and responses. People who believe that certain specific external things motivate their dress and other things don’t may be wrong or may be right, but I don’t think anyone claiming that no such factors are hugely influential is right.
The ideas of economists and political philosophers, both when they are right and when they are wrong, are more powerful than is commonly understood. Indeed the world is ruled by little else. Practical men, who believe themselves to be quite exempt from any intellectual influence, are usually the slaves of some defunct economist.
People who believe that certain specific eternal things motivate their dress
What do you mean by eternal? What I find comfortable or functional is not eternal and varies depending on location, time of year, and the weather of the particular day, just to name a few of the relevant variables.
but I don’t think anyone claiming that no such factors are hugely influential is right
Hugely influential in what way? Certainly I dress in certain ways that are indicative of the time period and culture I grew up in. I do not believe my choices are somehow unaffected by these things. Perhaps this was not clear in my original post. My intent was to say that I choose clothing by deciding if the clothing fulfills my preferences (which are shaped by external factors) and I do not generally spend much time thinking about whether other people around me will find it fashionable. I do spend a lot of time thinking about whether my clothing will keep me warm when it is cold, or dry when it is wet, and whether it is too tight or loose to be comfortable. In terms of aesthetics, I am trying to please my own sense of aesthetics (which are not necessarily unique to me). The largest exception to this that I can think of is interviews, and even then I pick the clothing I find most acceptable in terms of comfort and aesthetics that I also think will be acceptable for an interview.
But my particular preferences will not necessarily be shared by other people. Other people may give more weight to the aesthetic sense of those around them when deciding what clothing to wear. For them it will be useful to decide which of those people it’s more important for them to appeal to. They will also probably want to consider what kind of message they are trying to send, since choosing clothing in this way is about communicating something. This may mean that comfort and other factors might be ignored if they interfere with this goal.
Certainly I dress in certain ways that are indicative of the time period and culture I grew up in. I do not believe my choices are somehow unaffected by these things. Perhaps this was not clear in my original post.
It really wasn’t, especially coming from you, whose writing is almost never incomplete and confusing like that.
For them it will be useful to decide which of those people it’s more important for them to appeal to. They will also probably want to consider what kind of message they are trying to send, since choosing clothing in this way is about communicating something.
I think people’s articulated reasons are, even if true, not nearly complete. For example, the largest factor in someone choosing to wear a particular red thing might be anger, but the person might not know this and respond that he or she only dressed to please himself or herself, OR might say the choice was motivated by what others would like. Or a person might consistently prefer things presented to them by their closet on their right. Either way I don’t trust intuitive conscious narratives people have for how they choose what to wear.
So when you say “I therefore choose clothing that is comfortable and functional,” I’m perfectly willing to believe your conscious thoughts about how to dress are vastly different than most others’, but as I think the majority of influence is subconscious (for no clear reason do I think this), I think you probably choose clothing for largely the same reasons others do.
Thanks for your comments, and for clarifying your ideas. I think I can further address some of your points now.
It really wasn’t, especially coming from you
Good to know you think my writing is usually clear, even if not in this case. I agree that there should have been more background added to the first post to make the statements clearer. I will try to improve this in the future, since one of my goals for my writing is for it to be clear to those reading it. Therefore, I have tried to be as clear as I can in this post, although I suspect that it could be optimized more for brevity...
eternal-->external, sorry, edited.
Thanks for clarifying this. However, I am still confused by this sentence. Now the first part seems to be saying that if someone believes that certain external factors motivate their clothing choices and others don’t, they could be wrong or right. But isn’t it always the case that certain external factors motivate people and others don’t? If I wear rainproof clothing on a rainy day, isn’t it rational to suppose that I did so because it was raining and not because the grass was green? The second part of your sentence says that someone claiming that no such external factors are hugely influential isn’t right. I agree with that, but I’m uncertain if it was intended to disagree with my assertion that I choose clothing to please myself. If so, I think that my second post addresses that what satisfies me is based on external factors, especially those external factors that produce the comfort and functionality of the clothes (such as their size and the material they are made of). Could you perhaps give a specific example of where someone’s beliefs satisfies the statement you made and one where it does not?
Also, I feel that internal mental states, as they are affected by external factors, are what is actually being discussed here, and it is important to make this distinction. If the causes for our actions were 100% external from our brain, it follows that we wouldn’t need one to act in the ways that we do. But in fact we have external inputs that are processed in some way by our brain, producing an internal state (with possibly both unconscious and conscious outputs) that results in some specific action.
I think people’s articulated reasons are, even if true, not nearly complete.
Yes, articulated reasons are not necessarily complete, but I think that unarticulated reasons are much more difficult to evaluate than articulated ones. For example, let’s say that I choose to buy a certain wide-brimmed hat. The reason I give you is that I want to keep the sun out of my eyes and because I like the color. This is my articulated reason. The first part can be examined in terms of whether the given item is likely to fulfill the stated function. The second part must be taken at face value. Let’s say that I have an unarticulated reason for buying the hat—or actually, lets say I have several unarticulated reasons for buying the hat. Now, let’s take a look at what these might be. Trivially, I might have unarticulated reasons that I am conscious of, but do not choose to share. However, I think you were thinking more along the lines of unconscious reasons. And here is where I become suspicious, because while it could be quite useful to know what these actually are, I think that only a good deal of reading on psychology and neuroscience can even begin to scratch the surface of these reasons.
Either way I don’t trust intuitive conscious narratives people have for how they choose what to wear.
And I am wary of intuitive conscious narratives given for unconscious reasons people have for how they choose what they wear (or for why they do anything, really). I will give much more weight to reasons where I can examine the evidence and the logical chain of reasoning behind them, whether they are conscious or unconscious. In the case of unconscious reasons, a researcher might come up with a hypothesis for how unconscious behavior works, and formalize it through experimentation.
While there can be plenty of valid reasons for your position, it might help to explain specifically what you don’t trust about conscious narratives. Lack of completeness isn’t necessarily a fatal flaw—if a person’s conscious reasoning effectively predicts their future actions (especially if they can generalize this over many future actions), then there is a good reason to make use of that reasoning. However, if a person’s conscious reasoning is not a good predictor of their actions, then the time and effort required to look for unconscious ones may be justified.
I think you probably choose clothing for largely the same reasons others do.
This hypothesis is interesting, but it doesn’t tell me much about what you would predict for this behavior. For example, if people all choose clothing for largely the same reasons, does that mean they all wear largely the same things? Does it mean that Phil’s stated desire to choose more fashionable clothing and my stated desire to choose practical and comfortable clothing are not relevant in satisfying our actual desires in this area? How would you use this idea to predict people’s behavior or to give them useful recommendations to increase their satisfaction with their clothing choices? Could you clarify your ideas on this?
In summary, I would be interested to hear a more detailed explanation of your position that addresses what specific beliefs you think are correct and incorrect about clothing choices, and what predictions you would make about human behavior based on your position.
Edit: I did correctly interpret the second half of your sentence, but had an unfortunate typo in exactly the wrong place. I have corrected it above (the fix is the italicized ‘isn’t’). Sorry about that. Please read the remainder of that paragraph with the fix in mind.
I see now how my sentence was ambiguous. I meant: “people who believe that certain specific external things motivate their dress and other things don’t may be wrong or may be right about each of those things, instead of “people who believe that certain specific external things motivate their dress and other things don’t may be wrong or may be right that some things influence them and some things do not.
because it was raining and not because
“Because” isn’t really enough, for each explanatory factor you have to tell me how close to being necessary and how close to being sufficient it was.
The second part of your sentence says that someone claiming that no such external factors are hugely influential is right
I said I don’t think that!
what satisfies me is based on external factors
I think more goes into decision making than attempting to achieve satisfaction.
Trivially, I might have unarticulated reasons that I am conscious of, but do not choose to share. However, I think you were thinking more along the lines of unconscious reasons. And here is where I become suspicious, because while it could be quite useful to know what these actually are, I think that only a good deal of reading on psychology and neuroscience can even begin to scratch the surface of these reasons.
Our ability to know of the existence of facts is a separate fact than our ability to know those facts. You can be suspicious of anyone saying that they know your subconscious reasons without being suspicious of someone who tells you your articulated reasons are of moderate importance.
I will give much more weight to reasons where I can examine the evidence and the logical chain of reasoning behind them, whether they are conscious or unconscious.
If my road map has a huge hole separating the visible parts of a freeway to what scales to 50 miles, this does not mean that I can instantly teleport across the area represented by the hole by driving on that freeway. We believe there are unintuited influences, we should not pretend that all the influences we understand are all that influence us.
Or a person might consistently prefer things presented to them by their closet on their right
it might help to explain specifically what you don’t trust about conscious narratives.
Adults, too, can be persuaded to confabulate...They laid out a display of four identical items of clothing and asked people to pick which they thought was the best quality. It is known that people tend to subconsciously prefer the rightmost object in a sequence if given no other choice criteria, and sure enough about four out of five participants did favour the garment on the right. Yet when asked why they made the choice they did, nobody gave position as a reason.
For example, if people all choose clothing for largely the same reasons, does that mean they all wear largely the same things?
No, e.g. I would expect people to tell themselves flattering stories about whatever they did when they did it for a different reason, and then repeat that specific thing. E.g. if a person is stuck out in the rain and there are no umbrellas in local stores, that person might buy a parka and forever after “prefer waterproof jackets to umbrellas because then I don’t have to carry something in my hand,” (see here). I might expect people to wear a certain color whenever and because they felt angry, but would expect people to differ greatly as to how often they felt angry. Everyone may prefer the rightmost of several selections, but have closets arranged differently. Those sorts of things.
Upvoted for your thoughtful reply, which clarified a number of your points quite well. I will try to address some of your points and ask questions for those things I am still unclear on. Firstly, in your previous posts, it seems like you are discussing two separate issues—the first is the extent to which our decisions are based on external factors, the second is the extent to which our decisions are based on unconscious processing as opposed to conscious processing of those factors. Since your last post focused more on the second issue, this post will do so as well.
Here is what I did to analyze in more detail the position you are taking. I followed the link you supplied (this link being one of the reasons I upvoted your post—also, the use of the quote is very helpful to quickly establish relevance) and also used that page to get some information on the original source of the study mentioned. This led me to a paper by Nisbett and Wilson where this experiment is described by the original researchers. They also did a review of the literature to describe similar studies.
Reading Nisbett and Wilson’s paper changed my point of view on this subject since they discussed a variety of confabulation research in great detail. I would now agree that unconscious reasons can be an important component of understanding healthy decisions, although I still think this doesn’t always tell you any more useful information than the conscious reasons (specifically this may not always or even usually be the case where the conscious reason is correct, regardless of whether it is a confabulation). Their description of the 1931 experiment by Maier stood out especially for me, since it showed that healthy individuals could incorrectly explain how they knew the answer to a problem (as opposed to just saying that they don’t know how they figured it out). I’m not sure why I found this additional information more compelling than the more relevant clothing example. Maybe it helped to illustrate the more widespread existence of confabulation in cognition. I’ll have to think about this.
However, I think this paper outlined an important distinction, and that is that even when the reasons are correct, this doesn’t mean that they were discovered from introspection. Your link also discusses this concept of confabulation. However, a confabulation is not necessarily wrong (it is just necessarily not obtained from introspection). When the reasons are correct, they are still consciously known. It would be incorrect to say that they are not consciously known. It might be correct to say that the reasons for the reasons are not consciously known, but this is not quite the same thing.
I will now address some specific questions I have about the evidence you presented for your position. Let’s consider the right-side bias you presented. This is a good example because obviously nothing intrinsic to the clothing improves if you place it on someone’s right, and yet people overwhelmingly chose the item on the right (and they got the reason for this wrong). Yet I have questions about the applicability of this to everyday decisions. For example, how much stronger is this specific bias than conscious factors? If instead of being presented with identical items, the items are different, would this bias still be relevant?
For the other one involving color choice based on emotions felt at the time, I was not able to find any support. Is this factor also based on research, or just a hypothetical scenario? Am I missing something obvious? I know of claims that colors affect emotion, but am unaware of claims that current emotions affect color choice.
people who believe that certain specific external things motivate their dress and other things don’t may be wrong or may be right about each of those things
Okay. That makes sense to me, then.
I said I don’t think that!
True. It was an unfortunate typo on my part. I have since corrected the post above to reflect my actual meaning.
I think more goes into decision making than attempting to achieve satisfaction.
What do you mean by this? Can you give an example of what a person’s thought processes would be doing when making a decision (whether conscious or unconscious) besides attempting to achieve satisfaction? TheFreeDictionary.com states that satisfaction is ‘The fulfillment or gratification of a desire, need, or appetite.’ Maybe you mean that some of the ways the brain is wired to choose things do not actually fulfill this requirement, but are simply some sort of artifact of the wiring itself? For example, maybe this is true of the right-side preference you gave earlier. Nevertheless, if our minds have a component that positively justifies such seemingly irrelevant decisions through confabulation (ie. unconsciously making stuff up), it would seem that the overall structure of the mind is working quite hard to increase satisfaction.
You can be suspicious of anyone saying that they know your subconscious reasons without being suspicious of someone who tells you your articulated reasons are of moderate importance.
Thanks for bringing this up—I think I understand somewhat more clearly what claim you are trying to make now. I agree that being suspicious of the first kind of statement does not necessarily entail being suspicious of the second kind of statement. Still, I find it necessary to be suspicious of both. I have a relative lack of knowledge in the field of psychology and neuroscience (although I greatly enjoyed the one psychology class I took in college). In order to determine whether another person is correct in their statements, I need to closely evaluate the available evidence for those statements. This includes claims made by journal articles, the logical train of thought used, simple things like day to day experiences, and any other available evidence. I can, of course, guess based on my current knowledge, but that would bias my decision towards information I already know.
We believe there are unintuited influences, we should not pretend that all the influences we understand are all that influence us.
How would giving more weight when there is evidence for a reason (whether consciously or unconsciously known for the subject) be the same as pretending that only the intuitive kind of reason influences us? I do not think this is the correct response to a statement about examining evidence. Things for which there are evidence are not necessarily intuitive in any way. That is why science is necessary in the first place. I think this would be a more valid response to a statement saying that anything unintuitive should automatically be given less weight. That was not what I said, however. In fact, I can give more weight to your statement about people choosing items on the right now that I see the evidence that this actually occurs.
I would expect people to tell themselves flattering stories...
Yes, I did see studies that say that confabulations are often positive , so I see that there is research to support for the idea that people would choose flattering stories for their conscious decisions. However, if most confabulations really are positive, does this mean conscious thought is usually used to come up with negative reasons? Or just that people usually don’t come up with negative reasons for things?
I hope that helps to clarify my current position on this matter. I appreciate the time you took to provide additional insight into your position. I’ll definitely be reading more about this kind of research on unconscious reasoning to try to better understand how people make decisions.
I still think this doesn’t always tell you any more useful information than the conscious reasons...a confabulation is not necessarily wrong
OK, so let’s say it tells you that the useful information that you get from your consciousness is only 10% (semi-random number) of relevant information. It’s not that it provides useful information to outweigh the conscious information, it just contextualizes it into being less important, even if it is most of the important information you have. So it should greatly reduce confidence, and affect decisions related to that.
Let’s say out of a group of 20 people you knew well, one was going to construct two teams to compete in an activity, say soccer. If I told you a random member of each team, you could predict which team would be more likely to win, but your confidence would be less than if I told you all the members on each team. This is so even though the information you know (one player per team) does more for you than that you don’t know (the players who are evenly distributed).
Let’s consider the right-side bias you presented. This is a good example because obviously nothing intrinsic to the clothing improves if you place it on someone’s right, and yet people overwhelmingly chose the item on the right (and they got the reason for this wrong). Yet I have questions about the applicability of this to everyday decisions. For example, how much stronger is this specific bias than conscious factors? If instead of being presented with identical items, the items are different, would this bias still be relevant?
It is certainly possible that when presented with nearly identical items, people prefer the one on the right, but when presented with very different items, they all else equal do not. It is also possible there are few such effects and they are swamped by conscious ones. However, I see no evidence the effect is limited to similar items, I think there are many such effects, and an analogy to natural selection is applicable—it hardly matters for a rabbit’s reproductive success whether it is a bit furrier or less furry than other rabbits, a bit bigger or a bit smaller, etc., but with many small effects occurring, the small effects add up.
Is this factor also based on research, or just a hypothetical scenario? Am I missing something obvious? I know of claims that colors affect emotion, but am unaware of claims that current emotions affect color choice
Based on research indicating that they effect emotion, I assume they probably effect choice absent having seen any study on point.
besides attempting to achieve satisfaction?
I was thinking primarily of things broadly categorizable as negative motivation—physical discomfort, emotional fear, self-sabotage to have an excuse for later failure, etc.
Still, I find it necessary to be suspicious of both. I have a relative lack of knowledge in the field of psychology and neuroscience...I need to closely evaluate the available evidence for those statements.
We apparently have very different priors. If basically “extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence”, whereas subconscious processes would not have me conscious of them, I don’t consider my unawareness of them as extraordinary. Being convinced some occur, it is not hard to convince me that it’s likely various specific ones occur.
How would giving more weight when there is evidence for a reason
I’m trying to be meticulous about giving my knowns no more weight than necessary. If I am mapping 100 contiguous acres, and I know 10 acres have gardens, and know nothing about 90 acres, my estimate that the 90 unknown acres all have gardens is far less than 100%. If I am mapping an unknown number of acres, and I know 10 acres have gardens, and know nothing about the rest, my estimate that the unknown acres all have gardens is far less than 100%.
I consider the present search for subconscious influences to be far from exhaustive, and estimate there is much more out there. As is I consider the conscious influences to be pretty low. So regarding them, even if I know a lot more about them than anything else, when I consider the total of why I decided as I did, they are not predominantly important—it’s as if I knew one soccer player on each team, with each team having 5 to 50 players, that being unknown (but the same for each team). My prediction about who would win would be pretty much entirely based on the known player, but my confidence would be low because I know I have only a small proportion of the relevant information.
It’s very rare to get feedback on fashion—I could probably count on two hands the number of times in my life that someone has said something about my clothing—so how do you improve?
People likely don’t comment on your clothing because it is literally unremarkable. In my experience, people will comment on clothing that stands out, though negative comments generally only come from those close to me (and these are the comments that are most helpful for improvement, hard as they are to take). In fact, if I don’t get positive comments about an article of clothing that I expect to be complimented on I take that as evidence that it doesn’t look good on me. It’s possible that no one among your close friends or family pays attention to clothing or knows much about it; if this is the case it will be helpful to find someone who is knowledgeable who you feel comfortable asking for advice.
One of the best places to get feedback is the store where you’re shopping. The people who work there might give you good advice since they should know their product, but be careful: they often work on commission, so you’ll need a good bullshit detector. It can be better to ask your fellow customers, and it turns out that this is a perfectly socially acceptable thing to do as long as you’re polite and not pushy. Also, their answers are more likely to be honest than if you asked someone you know about clothing you already own, since they won’t have to worry about making you feel bad. I have had good results with questions like “do you think this fits me?” or “does this style work for me?” As always, take into account what kind of person they are (or present themselves as) when you hear their feedback and weight it appropriately.
Another thing that I do that may have increased the amount of feedback I get is that if I see someone I work with wearing an article of clothing that I like, I compliment them. This has become a normal thing to do at my (mostly male) workplace, and so my coworkers are more likely to compliment me. I hesitate to speculate on causality, but I think there is a little. I also sometimes compliment people I don’t know on their clothing in cafes or even on the street, but that’s mostly just an ongoing effort to be more social.
Finally, go to a LW meetup and find someone with fashion sense (if you can) and talk to them. They are far more likely than the average person to follow something close to Crocker’s rules.
I occasionally get feedback on fashion. It’s always positive, and it’s always while I’m wearing this.
This is probably not very useful.
I ask people who I trust will actually criticize me.
My sister pretty vocally and specifically hates particular things that I wear, and will say so when asked. My girlfriend is incentivized to try and make wear nicer clothes, and knows that if I’m asking her for fashion advice I’m not going to be offended by whatever answer I get.
The internet is full of perfectly good fashion advice—a search for fashion tips + your body type or + the relevant social scene will work. There is very little bad fashion advice out there. For whatever reason it is not a topic that people enjoy writing about when they don’t know what they’re talking about. At worst you’ll be told to never do something only to later realize you can get away with it. “They’re more like guidelines anyway.”
I’m not sure what to do about lack of individualized feedback—it is important. I find that receive feedback on what I’m wearing routinely, though I that is probably something that happens on social, not professional occasions. I suppose one requirement must be friends who notice what I’m wearing. Gender of your social circle is relevant—women are more likely to comment and more likely to comment positively; men are likely to make fun of me if I wear something really stupid looking. I believe there are online forums where people post photos of themselves to receive feedback on their fashion (there are a few subreddits, r/malefashionadvice for instance). That’s probably easier than finding new friends. If you have money fashion and wardrobe consultants can work wonders.
I’ve subscribed to GQ and Details, and looked at other fashion magazines, and they are useless. They just show outfits, or particular items, and pile superlatives on them (‘snazzy’, ‘retro’, ‘bold’, ‘understated’, etc.). But they give no clue as to why one thing is better than another.
One theory to explain this is that women have some kind of holistic thinking that lets them make use of this kind of information—that by just looking at a bunch of examples they can pick out what the rules are—and that fashion magazine writing culture teaches how to write for women.
Useful writing on fashion for men is mostly about suits, which I avoid as much as possible because I hate wearing a tie.
I suspect if you read them more you would pick up on the patterns. People are generally good at learning rules from labeled examples. You’d have to be interested enough to read a lot, though.
Maybe. But nobody ever wrote a book on automotive repair that was just a bunch of photographs of working engines.
Provided the patterns are well defined...
I think there is, unfortunately, a fair amount of bad fashion advice out there...
Link me some.
http://thestylesample.com/2011/10/03/how-to-wear-socks-and-heels-grownup/
Compare this and this. One of those must almost certainly be bad advice.
One has to pay attention to demographic differences- and I probably should have considered that my advice would be read by people outside my own demographic before I posted it. Is it non-obvious that “Ask Andy About Clothes” isn’t the place for an urban 20-something to go find fashion advice?
I am 28, I live in downtown Oakland, I have found it a useful resource over the past few years, and I am regularly complemented on my appearance. So yes, it is non-obvious.
This is not to say that I disagree with the notion that it is important to consider context. If you are going clubbing you should probably dress differently then when you are going to work.
For non-professional, non-formal occasions? I mean look, there are additional degrees of possibly relevant demographics here and it is a bit hard to figure them out given that I don’t know you and don’t know what you’re optimizing for fashion wise. The point is, someone who says “Fedoras, yay!” and someone who says “Fedora’s boo!” can both be right depending on what you look like and what the context is. But “Ask Andy” doesn’t look like the place to go to figure out what to, say, wear to a rock concert.
Yes, for non-professional, non-formal occasions. But yes, not every subculture will be represented by every point of view offered. And I guess that’s partly my point—unless you know what you are looking for, there will be fashion advice online that you should not take. And if you don’t know where to start, then “just look for advice online” doesn’t help. Heck, the “doesn’t Justin Timberlake look ridiculous here” links posted elsewhere were giving tips on how to dress like him!
Regarding rock concerts, there are some that I’d totally show up to in my usual range of wear, to which Ask Andy is reasonably relevant. There are some that this wouldn’t make any sense, yes.
Fair points. Upvoted.
I suppose I was thinking of lists of “basic fashion tips”- for which most sites I’ve seen agree. Things like: match belt and shoes, avoid pleats, how to tell if your seat is too low or too high etc.
You won’t go too wrong following those—particularly the ones pertaining to fit. They are oftentimes needlessly restrictive, though. “Avoid pleats” is perhaps better than no guidance at all—but there are pleated pants that look just fine, and flat front can have issues too; fit is far more important.
Regarding pleats in particular, some general guidelines: 1) They are more likely to work if they’re cut to hang from the waist than from the hips (unfortunately far more common on store shelves). 2) Shallow pleats are probably going to look better than deep pleats. 3) They are not currently “in”, I believe. OTOH, that’s been cyclical over the last few decades with a relatively short period, and most people won’t look down on you for wearing pleats if they don’t look bad on you (there will be a few that are invested in their opinions on both sides). 4) If you are very slim, flat fronts are more likely to suit you. If you are very large, pleats are more likely to do better.
In either case, if they’re not being cut for you (which shouldn’t be the case, if you’re just getting your feet wet in dressing nicer), try them on first. Walk around a bit. Sit down. Move like you’ll be moving in the pants. If the pleats look really “puffy”, don’t get that pair of pants. If flat front pants aren’t hanging well on you, pleats might be worth trying on.
Interesting, I get feedback fairly frequently but only positive feedback for specific garments. I suspect that people simply don’t say anything if they think something looks hideous or just mediocre.
Heh, once I grew a beard and had it for about six months. No one said anything about it to me while I had it. When I shaved it off, I couldn’t go anywhere for a week without being told “You look SO GOOD clean-shaven.” I completely understand why no one wanted to tell me how bad it apparently looked while I had it, but I was really embarrassed in retrospect.
Ask for feedback, in situations where you aren’t going to be judged (or are likely to be judged favorably) for the asking.
Fashion is a completely subjective opinion. If you want to be fashionable, you need to figure out who you’re trying to be fashionable for, and figure out what they like. In my case, this is easy, since the person I dress for is myself. I therefore choose clothing that is comfortable and functional given the large amount of time I spend outdoors. I do get comments on my clothing at times, which are sometimes complimentary and sometimes not. I think it’s best to wear the things you yourself like, even if you are dressing for someone else, though. Don’t you want to attract the kind of people who like the things you do?
Choice of goals is subjective. Effectiveness of your actions in meeting those goals is objective.
I agree. Choice of goals is based on preferences. But in order to meet the goal of being fashionable, considering subjective opinions is the only way to be objectively successful. To expand on that, I think a person would have to consider things like which people they want to judge them as fashionable. You can’t please everyone—the person who likes goth styles is probably going to have a different aesthetic than the one who wears sweaters with kittens (although perhaps not always).
As a person you are influenced by all sorts of things and the people around you and their expectations and responses. People who believe that certain specific external things motivate their dress and other things don’t may be wrong or may be right, but I don’t think anyone claiming that no such factors are hugely influential is right.
John Maynard Keynes
What do you mean by eternal? What I find comfortable or functional is not eternal and varies depending on location, time of year, and the weather of the particular day, just to name a few of the relevant variables.
Hugely influential in what way? Certainly I dress in certain ways that are indicative of the time period and culture I grew up in. I do not believe my choices are somehow unaffected by these things. Perhaps this was not clear in my original post. My intent was to say that I choose clothing by deciding if the clothing fulfills my preferences (which are shaped by external factors) and I do not generally spend much time thinking about whether other people around me will find it fashionable. I do spend a lot of time thinking about whether my clothing will keep me warm when it is cold, or dry when it is wet, and whether it is too tight or loose to be comfortable. In terms of aesthetics, I am trying to please my own sense of aesthetics (which are not necessarily unique to me). The largest exception to this that I can think of is interviews, and even then I pick the clothing I find most acceptable in terms of comfort and aesthetics that I also think will be acceptable for an interview.
But my particular preferences will not necessarily be shared by other people. Other people may give more weight to the aesthetic sense of those around them when deciding what clothing to wear. For them it will be useful to decide which of those people it’s more important for them to appeal to. They will also probably want to consider what kind of message they are trying to send, since choosing clothing in this way is about communicating something. This may mean that comfort and other factors might be ignored if they interfere with this goal.
eternal-->external, sorry, edited.
It really wasn’t, especially coming from you, whose writing is almost never incomplete and confusing like that.
I think people’s articulated reasons are, even if true, not nearly complete. For example, the largest factor in someone choosing to wear a particular red thing might be anger, but the person might not know this and respond that he or she only dressed to please himself or herself, OR might say the choice was motivated by what others would like. Or a person might consistently prefer things presented to them by their closet on their right. Either way I don’t trust intuitive conscious narratives people have for how they choose what to wear.
So when you say “I therefore choose clothing that is comfortable and functional,” I’m perfectly willing to believe your conscious thoughts about how to dress are vastly different than most others’, but as I think the majority of influence is subconscious (for no clear reason do I think this), I think you probably choose clothing for largely the same reasons others do.
Thanks for your comments, and for clarifying your ideas. I think I can further address some of your points now.
Good to know you think my writing is usually clear, even if not in this case. I agree that there should have been more background added to the first post to make the statements clearer. I will try to improve this in the future, since one of my goals for my writing is for it to be clear to those reading it. Therefore, I have tried to be as clear as I can in this post, although I suspect that it could be optimized more for brevity...
Thanks for clarifying this. However, I am still confused by this sentence. Now the first part seems to be saying that if someone believes that certain external factors motivate their clothing choices and others don’t, they could be wrong or right. But isn’t it always the case that certain external factors motivate people and others don’t? If I wear rainproof clothing on a rainy day, isn’t it rational to suppose that I did so because it was raining and not because the grass was green? The second part of your sentence says that someone claiming that no such external factors are hugely influential isn’t right. I agree with that, but I’m uncertain if it was intended to disagree with my assertion that I choose clothing to please myself. If so, I think that my second post addresses that what satisfies me is based on external factors, especially those external factors that produce the comfort and functionality of the clothes (such as their size and the material they are made of). Could you perhaps give a specific example of where someone’s beliefs satisfies the statement you made and one where it does not?
Also, I feel that internal mental states, as they are affected by external factors, are what is actually being discussed here, and it is important to make this distinction. If the causes for our actions were 100% external from our brain, it follows that we wouldn’t need one to act in the ways that we do. But in fact we have external inputs that are processed in some way by our brain, producing an internal state (with possibly both unconscious and conscious outputs) that results in some specific action.
Yes, articulated reasons are not necessarily complete, but I think that unarticulated reasons are much more difficult to evaluate than articulated ones. For example, let’s say that I choose to buy a certain wide-brimmed hat. The reason I give you is that I want to keep the sun out of my eyes and because I like the color. This is my articulated reason. The first part can be examined in terms of whether the given item is likely to fulfill the stated function. The second part must be taken at face value. Let’s say that I have an unarticulated reason for buying the hat—or actually, lets say I have several unarticulated reasons for buying the hat. Now, let’s take a look at what these might be. Trivially, I might have unarticulated reasons that I am conscious of, but do not choose to share. However, I think you were thinking more along the lines of unconscious reasons. And here is where I become suspicious, because while it could be quite useful to know what these actually are, I think that only a good deal of reading on psychology and neuroscience can even begin to scratch the surface of these reasons.
And I am wary of intuitive conscious narratives given for unconscious reasons people have for how they choose what they wear (or for why they do anything, really). I will give much more weight to reasons where I can examine the evidence and the logical chain of reasoning behind them, whether they are conscious or unconscious. In the case of unconscious reasons, a researcher might come up with a hypothesis for how unconscious behavior works, and formalize it through experimentation. While there can be plenty of valid reasons for your position, it might help to explain specifically what you don’t trust about conscious narratives. Lack of completeness isn’t necessarily a fatal flaw—if a person’s conscious reasoning effectively predicts their future actions (especially if they can generalize this over many future actions), then there is a good reason to make use of that reasoning. However, if a person’s conscious reasoning is not a good predictor of their actions, then the time and effort required to look for unconscious ones may be justified.
This hypothesis is interesting, but it doesn’t tell me much about what you would predict for this behavior. For example, if people all choose clothing for largely the same reasons, does that mean they all wear largely the same things? Does it mean that Phil’s stated desire to choose more fashionable clothing and my stated desire to choose practical and comfortable clothing are not relevant in satisfying our actual desires in this area? How would you use this idea to predict people’s behavior or to give them useful recommendations to increase their satisfaction with their clothing choices? Could you clarify your ideas on this?
In summary, I would be interested to hear a more detailed explanation of your position that addresses what specific beliefs you think are correct and incorrect about clothing choices, and what predictions you would make about human behavior based on your position.
Edit: I did correctly interpret the second half of your sentence, but had an unfortunate typo in exactly the wrong place. I have corrected it above (the fix is the italicized ‘isn’t’). Sorry about that. Please read the remainder of that paragraph with the fix in mind.
I see now how my sentence was ambiguous. I meant: “people who believe that certain specific external things motivate their dress and other things don’t may be wrong or may be right about each of those things, instead of “people who believe that certain specific external things motivate their dress and other things don’t may be wrong or may be right that some things influence them and some things do not.
“Because” isn’t really enough, for each explanatory factor you have to tell me how close to being necessary and how close to being sufficient it was.
I said I don’t think that!
I think more goes into decision making than attempting to achieve satisfaction.
Our ability to know of the existence of facts is a separate fact than our ability to know those facts. You can be suspicious of anyone saying that they know your subconscious reasons without being suspicious of someone who tells you your articulated reasons are of moderate importance.
If my road map has a huge hole separating the visible parts of a freeway to what scales to 50 miles, this does not mean that I can instantly teleport across the area represented by the hole by driving on that freeway. We believe there are unintuited influences, we should not pretend that all the influences we understand are all that influence us.
One example I gave was this:
No, e.g. I would expect people to tell themselves flattering stories about whatever they did when they did it for a different reason, and then repeat that specific thing. E.g. if a person is stuck out in the rain and there are no umbrellas in local stores, that person might buy a parka and forever after “prefer waterproof jackets to umbrellas because then I don’t have to carry something in my hand,” (see here). I might expect people to wear a certain color whenever and because they felt angry, but would expect people to differ greatly as to how often they felt angry. Everyone may prefer the rightmost of several selections, but have closets arranged differently. Those sorts of things.
Upvoted for your thoughtful reply, which clarified a number of your points quite well. I will try to address some of your points and ask questions for those things I am still unclear on. Firstly, in your previous posts, it seems like you are discussing two separate issues—the first is the extent to which our decisions are based on external factors, the second is the extent to which our decisions are based on unconscious processing as opposed to conscious processing of those factors. Since your last post focused more on the second issue, this post will do so as well.
Here is what I did to analyze in more detail the position you are taking. I followed the link you supplied (this link being one of the reasons I upvoted your post—also, the use of the quote is very helpful to quickly establish relevance) and also used that page to get some information on the original source of the study mentioned. This led me to a paper by Nisbett and Wilson where this experiment is described by the original researchers. They also did a review of the literature to describe similar studies.
Reading Nisbett and Wilson’s paper changed my point of view on this subject since they discussed a variety of confabulation research in great detail. I would now agree that unconscious reasons can be an important component of understanding healthy decisions, although I still think this doesn’t always tell you any more useful information than the conscious reasons (specifically this may not always or even usually be the case where the conscious reason is correct, regardless of whether it is a confabulation). Their description of the 1931 experiment by Maier stood out especially for me, since it showed that healthy individuals could incorrectly explain how they knew the answer to a problem (as opposed to just saying that they don’t know how they figured it out). I’m not sure why I found this additional information more compelling than the more relevant clothing example. Maybe it helped to illustrate the more widespread existence of confabulation in cognition. I’ll have to think about this.
However, I think this paper outlined an important distinction, and that is that even when the reasons are correct, this doesn’t mean that they were discovered from introspection. Your link also discusses this concept of confabulation. However, a confabulation is not necessarily wrong (it is just necessarily not obtained from introspection). When the reasons are correct, they are still consciously known. It would be incorrect to say that they are not consciously known. It might be correct to say that the reasons for the reasons are not consciously known, but this is not quite the same thing.
I will now address some specific questions I have about the evidence you presented for your position. Let’s consider the right-side bias you presented. This is a good example because obviously nothing intrinsic to the clothing improves if you place it on someone’s right, and yet people overwhelmingly chose the item on the right (and they got the reason for this wrong). Yet I have questions about the applicability of this to everyday decisions. For example, how much stronger is this specific bias than conscious factors? If instead of being presented with identical items, the items are different, would this bias still be relevant?
For the other one involving color choice based on emotions felt at the time, I was not able to find any support. Is this factor also based on research, or just a hypothetical scenario? Am I missing something obvious? I know of claims that colors affect emotion, but am unaware of claims that current emotions affect color choice.
Okay. That makes sense to me, then.
True. It was an unfortunate typo on my part. I have since corrected the post above to reflect my actual meaning.
What do you mean by this? Can you give an example of what a person’s thought processes would be doing when making a decision (whether conscious or unconscious) besides attempting to achieve satisfaction? TheFreeDictionary.com states that satisfaction is ‘The fulfillment or gratification of a desire, need, or appetite.’ Maybe you mean that some of the ways the brain is wired to choose things do not actually fulfill this requirement, but are simply some sort of artifact of the wiring itself? For example, maybe this is true of the right-side preference you gave earlier. Nevertheless, if our minds have a component that positively justifies such seemingly irrelevant decisions through confabulation (ie. unconsciously making stuff up), it would seem that the overall structure of the mind is working quite hard to increase satisfaction.
Thanks for bringing this up—I think I understand somewhat more clearly what claim you are trying to make now. I agree that being suspicious of the first kind of statement does not necessarily entail being suspicious of the second kind of statement. Still, I find it necessary to be suspicious of both. I have a relative lack of knowledge in the field of psychology and neuroscience (although I greatly enjoyed the one psychology class I took in college). In order to determine whether another person is correct in their statements, I need to closely evaluate the available evidence for those statements. This includes claims made by journal articles, the logical train of thought used, simple things like day to day experiences, and any other available evidence. I can, of course, guess based on my current knowledge, but that would bias my decision towards information I already know.
How would giving more weight when there is evidence for a reason (whether consciously or unconsciously known for the subject) be the same as pretending that only the intuitive kind of reason influences us? I do not think this is the correct response to a statement about examining evidence. Things for which there are evidence are not necessarily intuitive in any way. That is why science is necessary in the first place. I think this would be a more valid response to a statement saying that anything unintuitive should automatically be given less weight. That was not what I said, however. In fact, I can give more weight to your statement about people choosing items on the right now that I see the evidence that this actually occurs.
Yes, I did see studies that say that confabulations are often positive , so I see that there is research to support for the idea that people would choose flattering stories for their conscious decisions. However, if most confabulations really are positive, does this mean conscious thought is usually used to come up with negative reasons? Or just that people usually don’t come up with negative reasons for things?
I hope that helps to clarify my current position on this matter. I appreciate the time you took to provide additional insight into your position. I’ll definitely be reading more about this kind of research on unconscious reasoning to try to better understand how people make decisions.
OK, so let’s say it tells you that the useful information that you get from your consciousness is only 10% (semi-random number) of relevant information. It’s not that it provides useful information to outweigh the conscious information, it just contextualizes it into being less important, even if it is most of the important information you have. So it should greatly reduce confidence, and affect decisions related to that.
Let’s say out of a group of 20 people you knew well, one was going to construct two teams to compete in an activity, say soccer. If I told you a random member of each team, you could predict which team would be more likely to win, but your confidence would be less than if I told you all the members on each team. This is so even though the information you know (one player per team) does more for you than that you don’t know (the players who are evenly distributed).
It is certainly possible that when presented with nearly identical items, people prefer the one on the right, but when presented with very different items, they all else equal do not. It is also possible there are few such effects and they are swamped by conscious ones. However, I see no evidence the effect is limited to similar items, I think there are many such effects, and an analogy to natural selection is applicable—it hardly matters for a rabbit’s reproductive success whether it is a bit furrier or less furry than other rabbits, a bit bigger or a bit smaller, etc., but with many small effects occurring, the small effects add up.
Based on research indicating that they effect emotion, I assume they probably effect choice absent having seen any study on point.
I was thinking primarily of things broadly categorizable as negative motivation—physical discomfort, emotional fear, self-sabotage to have an excuse for later failure, etc.
We apparently have very different priors. If basically “extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence”, whereas subconscious processes would not have me conscious of them, I don’t consider my unawareness of them as extraordinary. Being convinced some occur, it is not hard to convince me that it’s likely various specific ones occur.
I’m trying to be meticulous about giving my knowns no more weight than necessary. If I am mapping 100 contiguous acres, and I know 10 acres have gardens, and know nothing about 90 acres, my estimate that the 90 unknown acres all have gardens is far less than 100%. If I am mapping an unknown number of acres, and I know 10 acres have gardens, and know nothing about the rest, my estimate that the unknown acres all have gardens is far less than 100%.
I consider the present search for subconscious influences to be far from exhaustive, and estimate there is much more out there. As is I consider the conscious influences to be pretty low. So regarding them, even if I know a lot more about them than anything else, when I consider the total of why I decided as I did, they are not predominantly important—it’s as if I knew one soccer player on each team, with each team having 5 to 50 players, that being unknown (but the same for each team). My prediction about who would win would be pretty much entirely based on the known player, but my confidence would be low because I know I have only a small proportion of the relevant information.