For most dating app users, I’m genuinely uncertain how representative both assumptions are, and I’d be curious to see more data regarding both (Aella’s surveys maybe?)
For me, neither assumption holds; I suspect this makes me un-representative of most users:
I decouple dating from sex, and do use these apps to find platonic acquaintances
I swipe right mostly if I predict the person is interesting to meet up with, and swipe left on the majority of “lust at first sight” profiles
Is that officially supported by the apps? Like, is there a selection like: “I am looking for… someone to marry / a one-night stand / a platonic friend”? Do you do something specific to indicate that platonic friends are what you are looking for?
I am asking because if there is such option, then probably many people use it that way. If not, then maybe your approach is unusual. (But maybe not too unusual, because otherwise people would not respond to you, or would be disappointed after meeting you?)
Depends on the app. Tinder for instance has a section called “What are you looking for?” that everyone else can see, whose selectable options include “New friends”, “Still figuring it out”, “Short-term fun”, “Long-term partner”, and a mix of the last two. People in my area use a pretty even mix of these, and their signaling is usually honest.
I should’ve been clearer, my bad.
For most dating app users, I’m genuinely uncertain how representative both assumptions are, and I’d be curious to see more data regarding both (Aella’s surveys maybe?)
For me, neither assumption holds; I suspect this makes me un-representative of most users:
I decouple dating from sex, and do use these apps to find platonic acquaintances
I swipe right mostly if I predict the person is interesting to meet up with, and swipe left on the majority of “lust at first sight” profiles
Is that officially supported by the apps? Like, is there a selection like: “I am looking for… someone to marry / a one-night stand / a platonic friend”? Do you do something specific to indicate that platonic friends are what you are looking for?
I am asking because if there is such option, then probably many people use it that way. If not, then maybe your approach is unusual. (But maybe not too unusual, because otherwise people would not respond to you, or would be disappointed after meeting you?)
Depends on the app. Tinder for instance has a section called “What are you looking for?” that everyone else can see, whose selectable options include “New friends”, “Still figuring it out”, “Short-term fun”, “Long-term partner”, and a mix of the last two. People in my area use a pretty even mix of these, and their signaling is usually honest.