A take away could be to get in the habit of checking in with all parties involved to see if they have the time and mental bandwidth to really discuss the issue, and if not, defer the conversation to a later date. This would be easier in a community like LW, but I think it could still be fluidly pulled off in other various social contexts.
I think the key to pulling it off would be to make it clear that the issue is only being deferred because you want it to give it your attention and consideration, and not because you are trying to avoid confrontation.
+1 for a concrete operationalization. In fact, I think this may be the impulse that’s behind behavior (from some of my allies) that I’ve previously felt annoyed by, and I expect to react more charitably as a result of your comment.
A take away could be to get in the habit of checking in with all parties involved to see if they have the time and mental bandwidth to really discuss the issue, and if not, defer the conversation to a later date. This would be easier in a community like LW, but I think it could still be fluidly pulled off in other various social contexts.
I think the key to pulling it off would be to make it clear that the issue is only being deferred because you want it to give it your attention and consideration, and not because you are trying to avoid confrontation.
+1 for a concrete operationalization. In fact, I think this may be the impulse that’s behind behavior (from some of my allies) that I’ve previously felt annoyed by, and I expect to react more charitably as a result of your comment.