Pushing the envelope always makes people uncomfortable.
That’s an interesting belief to have. I don’t think that it’s either helpful or true.
Yesterday I asked a guy who’s very touchy feely with everyone about how he know when it’s okay to touch girls. He said something along the lines of: “You have to touch people to make them comfortable. I listen to my intuition.”
There are various PUA people who can go and kiss a girl in a club with whom they didn’t interact before. The girl enjoys the kiss and it doesn’t make her uncomfortable.
I would classify actions like that as “pushing the envelope”. At the same time a girl who’s uncomfortable just won’t go along with the kiss.
I would expect that consensual strong physical escalation that ignores the social rules of the place in which it happens nearly always needed a feeling of comfort to happen.
Which behaviors are socially acceptable in which environments changes with time, largely as people push the envelope or otherwise ignore the rules.
It pays to learn the rules before you break them.
Specifically you should be able to perceive when a woman is uncomfortable before try to push the envelope and ignore the rules.
Sometimes, other times it’s easier if you don’t know the rules you don’t know what they are.
Pushing the envelope always makes people uncomfortable.
That’s an interesting belief to have. I don’t think that it’s either helpful or true. Yesterday I asked a guy who’s very touchy feely with everyone about how he know when it’s okay to touch girls. He said something along the lines of: “You have to touch people to make them comfortable. I listen to my intuition.”
There are various PUA people who can go and kiss a girl in a club with whom they didn’t interact before. The girl enjoys the kiss and it doesn’t make her uncomfortable. I would classify actions like that as “pushing the envelope”. At the same time a girl who’s uncomfortable just won’t go along with the kiss.
I would expect that consensual strong physical escalation that ignores the social rules of the place in which it happens nearly always needed a feeling of comfort to happen.