Pushing the envelope always makes people uncomfortable.
That’s an interesting belief to have. I don’t think that it’s either helpful or true.
Yesterday I asked a guy who’s very touchy feely with everyone about how he know when it’s okay to touch girls. He said something along the lines of: “You have to touch people to make them comfortable. I listen to my intuition.”
There are various PUA people who can go and kiss a girl in a club with whom they didn’t interact before. The girl enjoys the kiss and it doesn’t make her uncomfortable.
I would classify actions like that as “pushing the envelope”. At the same time a girl who’s uncomfortable just won’t go along with the kiss.
I would expect that consensual strong physical escalation that ignores the social rules of the place in which it happens nearly always needed a feeling of comfort to happen.
That’s an interesting belief to have. I don’t think that it’s either helpful or true. Yesterday I asked a guy who’s very touchy feely with everyone about how he know when it’s okay to touch girls. He said something along the lines of: “You have to touch people to make them comfortable. I listen to my intuition.”
There are various PUA people who can go and kiss a girl in a club with whom they didn’t interact before. The girl enjoys the kiss and it doesn’t make her uncomfortable. I would classify actions like that as “pushing the envelope”. At the same time a girl who’s uncomfortable just won’t go along with the kiss.
I would expect that consensual strong physical escalation that ignores the social rules of the place in which it happens nearly always needed a feeling of comfort to happen.