The sort of men we’re talking about, who overcompensate to avoid being creepy—they’re doing this because they just know to not be creepy; they don’t have a good concrete any idea of what that means, they just know the general direction of it and that it’s bad. And so they step back from anything they think might at all be over the line and… well, you know the rest. Of course, they don’t realize that they were never anywhere near the line in the first place, because the things that are actually over the line are things they wouldn’t even think of doing in the first place. Having actual examples then is helpful because it allows you to see, “Wait, that’s a typical example of what’s over the line? I guess I was never anywhere near the line in the first place after all.”
Except we frequently do get called “creepy” when we approach it.
Except we frequently do get called “creepy” when we approach it.